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    Unhappy No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    Basically split up with my gf of 2 1/2 years. She said she loves me but isn't in love anymore. A couple hours later at night she told me she was sorry and was hoping I was okay. I said I'm okay and asked if she was okay. She said no and called me crying.

    She said she is afraid of losing me and wants to be sure she wants to be with me if we decide to make it work. She said she thought of me with someone else, no being with me and no holding me and seeing me. She said she was afraid of losing me. She told me that she was feeling like she made a mistake and I said maybe we should take some space. And she agreed space would be perfect for her to clear her head. We are going to a close friends bday on Friday so I can't avoid that. But I said after that we will go back to taking space and she agreed.

    Am I playing this no contact thing right? The fact that she is already questioning her decision seems good to me. Also, what do I do when she messages me?

    She's posting a bunch of stuff of depressing love songs every where like on twitter, her blog, etc. She won't delete the pictures of us off everything but it's not her current display picture. I've been trying to be as non reactive as possible. I hope I'm doing okay because I love her and would love to get back together. Right now I'm gonna focus on my self but I'm just wondering if my approach is correct.


    Thanks in advance guys

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    Default Re: No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    Anyone anything? Could really use the help

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    Default Re: No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    So far so good dude. No reactive is the best move here. Women are emotional creatures. When you don't respond to them emotionally it gives you all the power in the situation. Frame control at its finest. Looking at the glass half full kind of view, this timing of this break couldn't of come at a better time. This party is right around the corner. It will be her first glimpse at what it's like being single and you being back on the market for women. She will get to see first hand what it's like to not be with you. What do I suggest doing. Talk to her at the party but you need to mingle with other people there and even other women. You don't need to flirt. Just get to know more people. Just the act of having a good time during some friendly convo will get her mind buzzing about "what ifs".

    If there is alcohol then and drinking its important that you don't get drunk or make yourself vulnerable to acting like an AFC. Alcohol and her being on your arm could have you spilling things your sober self would shake his head at. So keep it tipsy at best. Have a good time at this party and trust me she will take notice.

    Now work on you, this break isn't that much of a vacation. Read some good PUA books, read around this forum. Members here always have good advice. I find new tips Everytime I'm on here. Work on you. She will come back.

    What you are doing now is great though. Keep texts or calls strictly business. Talk to her like an old friend. Game her and make her fall all over again. Most relationships fail because they fall out of love or get bored. I lost the girl of my dreams this way and pray to god she comes back one day. She was the classic "the one that got away". I learned from this. Keep it fresh and exciting. NEVER let the relationship go stale.

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    Default Re: No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    Also sorry for any typos. I'm working on a touchscreen tablet here.

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    Default Re: No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    Hey man thanks for the tips I won't be drinking at the party and I get the impression we won't be going together anymore because she's already looking for tickets to a concert on valentines day to go with her friends and also she's getting advice from a friend of hers and she's quite frustrated that they aren't answering their texts. I just checked my old laptop and she left her social network on and I couldn't help but check. Right now I'm majorly stressing cause I thought things were looking good now I'm skeptical of everything.

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    Default Re: No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    Sign out of that old machine and never do that again. Not only is that very low, it's not good for you at all. Also don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. Just because u read something, doesn't mean that's how the situation is. How many times have your friends given u advice and u just did you own thing regardless. Just because friends are giving her suggestions, doesn't mean that's how she is rolling.

    Do you. Work on you. You can win her back.

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    Default Re: No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    I know man it was bad I don't want to do that again, but the fact that we had plans before this whatever it is whether it's a break or nothing and now she's thinking of a concert instead. It sucks.

    I want to ask her if we are on a break and together or nothing but I dunno I should leave it I think also? I don't know I'm conflicted. I had high hopes after last night

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    Default Re: No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    Let me tell u my situation. I lost my girl. She is the type u see in the movies. It was that kind of love. Our connection was top notch. I would trade anything to go back in time and undo all the stupid AFC Shyt that I did. But that's life. I lost and then learned. I've done a major 360 I'm my life. I worked out. Brushed up on my game. Even hooked up with models. I did me. She ended up meeting some douche. They always argue. She says she loves him. He is that insecure ugly dude who stands in the corner at clubs and just plays on his phone all night. That type. Well guess what. Out of nowhere she started hitting back up on FB messenger. How do I go from being blocked by her to having a convo? She asks to meet for lunch behind his back. She says things like I'm different than her current dude is. Tells me I'm laid back. Compliments me. She even admitted to checking my twitter since I left for vacation in august. We have plans to get lunch again next week. So I'm with you dude. Fighting for the love we know we deserve. But it takes time. Most importantly, it takes strategy. You have to game her. Make her feel again. Make her miss you. Make her feel that being without you isn't as exciting as she thought. They always come back man. Today. Next month. Or a year later like me. What you got to make sure of though is that you are ready when that moment comes. The universe isn't cruel. It's smart. It knows what we want and drops it slightly out of reach to see how hard we are willing to work to get it back. I know it sucks. Could be worse. She could be living with a new guy. But as I'm realizing, even then, there is stills chance.

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    Default Re: No clue what to do need urgent help NC working?

    Wow man that's completely different. I find she's playin games with me though so I straight up went as alpha as possible after I asked her if we were together or not cause she was being confusing. We talked and she said she doesn't want to be together but we should both take time to think I said no thank you I'm done with all of this and she started to cry and said bye and I hung up the phone. I was sick of her bossing me around and making me wait on her I don't deserve that. I deserve a girl who knows she wants me. No more beta shit. If she wants me she better come crawling back. I'm moving on with this. I also won't be replying to her until she is begging


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