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Thread: Ex Unblocks me after ~6 months, how to take it?

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    Default Ex Unblocks me after ~6 months, how to take it?

    So roughly 6 months ago (lost count, I try not to think about it and move on) my ex of 10 months and I broke up on really bad terms. I dumped her over a fight about my jealousy and when I talked to her saying sorry she said she just wanted to be friends. Long story short, she got with her ex (who shes with now) a week later and I cursed her out and went to her house grabbed my shit and left. She blocked me after that but unblocked me after which I blocked her for 2 months and then tried to re-initiate contact by asking her about her little cousin, which I got no reply and was blocked.

    Now here we are all this time later and she decided to unblock me today (I noticed a bunch of pictures of her were in my tagged photos). This rose flags in my head because I remember as we entered the last downhill month of our relationship she went and unblocked this ex (which I instigated a fight, good old insecure me of back then). I can't help but think that it's because deep down she misses me, because I've spent the last couple months when I thought of her thinking how farked up it is that we were each others everything and that I'm nothing to her but she still plagues my mind. I think shes trying to check up on me because she misses me so I have all this motivation to go out and post pics of all the hot girls I'm around now because I know shes looking but she doesn't know I know so it will seem like I'm of high value to her again. However, the rational side of me is thinking that she just happened to do it while unblocking others.

    I want to believe her and this dude are dying down and that shes looking back my way, but I'm so confused in my mind. I told myself I wouldn't give her a chance, but yet I feel like maybe I should forgive her if we start talking again and try again. This comes from me thinking about all the struggles we went through and how we spent so much of our time together where we were best friends and lovers. I honestly could be myself more with her than my long time friends and she wouldn't judge me. I did happen to glance over her profile but didn't go down her timeline because it was all shit with her and him so I went to her pics and she deleted every single pic of me and her kissing and hugging, so that there shattered my heart. I'm hoping that was a result of her boyfriends jealousy and not her own action because I was the one who deleted pics of her and her ex before me.

    I know I'm rambling but I need some serious external opinions. When we were together she honestly never did me much wrong until the very end. We did fight a lot, but I did instigate them over stupid jealousy shit. I've put my hands on her (once a LONG time ago, but I still threatened her later on), which I extremely regret and is part of the reason I want her back, is to prove I'm not that guy when she remembers me. I just think she lost attraction for me because I became AFC. She would even text the exact words "I want a man who isn't insecure and jealous and has the confidence to trust me". I don't know why my gut keeps telling me if we get back together it will work because I know better now that I can't be insecure. I think that the connection will come back. I want to hear your guyses thoughts, be as blunt as possible. If I take her back, would you guys say I lose my man card or keep it because I took back what I've wanted for so long? This event just brought back a shit ton of feelings that I haven't felt in a while.

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    Default Re: Ex Unblocks me after ~6 months, how to take it?

    Hey man.

    There you go, you've posted a few times about re-initiating contact and she eventually unblocks you on FB. Sh1t happens.

    It could mean any number of things bro so try and stop analysing and coming up with different scenarios on why she has done this. It doesn't matter why she did it.

    She's still with another guy so do not initiate contact now. I know the emotions kick in and you want to start doing stuff but don't. Move too early (or at all if she isn't interested yet) and she'll be gone.

    She went back to her ex. Now you're hoping she will get back with another ex i.e. you. If that is what she wants, and you don't know this, you need to have a real hard think to yourself about whether this is what you want.

    If she wants you back let her initiate contact bro, do not re-engage. Wait it out but don't block her. But DO NOT look at her FB because that is what stirs up the emotions.

    If she unblocked you so she could check up on you, just get on with your life and don't do anything different like posting pics to try and make her jealous. Show her that you can do without her. And you can do without her bro. And you can find a better woman. And, by the time you are my age, she will be a distant memory.

    Keep doing what you have been doing bro.

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    Default Re: Ex Unblocks me after ~6 months, how to take it?

    Thanks, I think thats what I'll do. The very thought just irritates the shit out of me. I think I'll go with if something happens in the future it'll happen, but my logical side really wants somebody else, oddly a virgin who I'll take their virginity so I won't deal with this stupid shit. I might have to put up with personality conflicts but I won't have it in the back of my mind that another dudes seed has been in my woman while I'm fucking her.

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    Default Re: Ex Unblocks me after ~6 months, how to take it?

    No U-turns. Move on.

    Just like in movies, sequels usually suck.

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    Default Re: Ex Unblocks me after ~6 months, how to take it?

    I loved my woman very much.i got that chance to be with her and it was great.do whatever you wanna do.i think i would call her.i learnt you got to take shots even if it scares you.if you loose you will learn.you need closure bro.somehow like i did.

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    Default Re: Ex Unblocks me after ~6 months, how to take it?

    I've learned that exes are exes for a reason.

    I'm loyal & faithful when I'm with someone. And when I let myself become emotionally vulnerable, it's amazing. (But it's also dangerous.)

    When you allow the opportunity to get hurt & have your heart broken, that's when you find out just how much you can love someone.

    BUT...
    For me, if I get pushed to the point where I'm forced to let someone go.... that's it! I will NEVER be with that person again in that capacity. EVER.

    I won't even be friends with them.
    Sure, I'll be cordial, and friendly & polite... but I will not be "friends" with them & will not contact them at all.

    If they message me, I might respond back, if I have nothing better to do. But it's gonna be short replies & will convey an attitude of "I really don't give a crap"... but nicely.

    It sucks having to do that, but it's what has to be done.
    Because, once I'm forced to fall out of love with someone, I'm not giving them the chance to F**K me over again.
    But that's just me.




    When my Ex fiancee messaged me a week ago & said "I miss you", I replied back "Yep.. I went through that too. It sucks."

    She sent a couple more messages, but I made it clear I wasn't going back down that road.

    That's how I handle that type of situation.


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