Hello to you guys out there and this is my story...
About 2 months ago I met a woman we were having a romantic relationship as kids, about 15 years ago. We were having fun together for about a month and although she told me in the beginning she wasn't ready for a relationship, we finally made out and for about a month we were like a normal couple.
She was telling people how happy and in love she was with me, her friends were approaching me telling her that she was so happy with me and to be honest things were looking really good. After the first 2 weeks(which were really great, being together almost all the time about 4 times per week), we decided that we should spend some time doing other stuff in our lives, like seeing our friends and family because we had spent so much time together and we wouldn't like to make this relationship boring and needy. So we started seeing each other about 2 times per week. We live about 10 minutes walk time from each other, but I wouldn't like to seem so clingy and walk to her house for a kiss or something and seem desperate. Although we didn't see each other that often we were talking to the phone for 2-3 times per day and sometimes those calls were long enough(30-40 minutes), a typical "good morning babe" text etc.
About 10 days ago she came over to my place, she was kissing me, being emotional and we had fun together with movies and stuff(no sex but none of us mentioned it) she slept over and things were looking great.. the following day she called me over to her place and we hanged out with some friends of her, things were ok, even though she seemed kinda skeptical(but I know you can't be always laughing and in good mood so I didn't really give any credit to it)...then the following day I was out in a very noisy place with some friends of mine and she texted me that we needed to talk about our relationship and that she didn't feel ready for something like this. I couldn't and wouldn't go out to call her so I texted her that she is free to do as she will and I wanted her to be just happy. She texted me that she appreciates me as a person and I responded that I did the same for her.
Afterwards(late at night)she didn't call me, the next day she didn't do this either. The second day after the last text message, she texted me that "either way" after 10 days (that she stopped some kind of diet and medication), she would call me over to hang out and eat something. I didn't even bother to answer, because you don't just dump someone by text message when you are 30 years old and supposedly you know want you want in your life and if you really wanted to see him you would call him or walk by his house which is 10 minutes walk time from yours...
So she messaged(all of this happened in text messaging) me some hours later and told me that probably I wanted NC with her. I responded in an "unaffected" way by telling her why she is asking me of what suggestions she should make...
Ex: I'm sorry I gave you unhappy feelings
Me: How come you know what you cause to other people and how other people feel
Ex: I understood it the last time we talked
Me: When did we talk last time
Ex: Two days ago via text
Me: Isn't texting a way of arranging dates and saying dumb stuff?
Ex: Then why were you texting me the day before, I thought we were talking
Me: What would you do if you were in a noisy place and hanging around with friends?
Ex: The I need to talk stuff I told you was to meet and talk when we could
Me: Instead you keep on texting and making assumptions
Ex: I don't prefer texting, I suggested that we should meet and eat something and you didn't answer
Me: If you want to see me and talk to me, you know how
Since then its been a week of NC. To be honest, I really have great confidence in my self, I am fit and good looking, doing stuff in my life, have friends and I am a social person in general. What I liked about her in the beginning was that she gave me the impression of being a person who knows want she wants, and when she finally told me that she wanted me and keep telling this thing all over again and being so enthusiastic about our relationship..this made me feel great. We both had the same goals in our life as we talked in the beginning, wanting to make a family, establish a steady life with our jobs etc...I was feeling really lucky to have found her really, almost a victim of oneitis. She was recently out of a 2y LTR and I'm 6 months emotionally out of an 8 year LTR(although I still care for and love my ex-ex LTR gf, but not IN-love and I have told my ex about it because she asked me about it).
During our time together, she has asked me a lot about my ex-ex LTR gf and I suppose that she might think that I am not so into her and thinking about the girl before her...you know it is hard not to think about a woman you've been with for about a decade(I withdrew from that relationship because I got really-really hurt), I've done lots of stuff not to think about her and I told her that it is hard to make a new start again, but I really wanted to try with her and I did try. For the past month I tried to make her feel safe and I didn't want her to spend much money because I know she didn't have many.
I really don't know what to do next. I want to give her time to think over, even though I know she has already thought about this. I know what I want and this recent texting behavior really made me think about her as immature and afraid of confronting me. I will not try to convince her about anything, because it is something she should decide for herself. I would like to try things with her and for this reason I am willing to read your opinions. I still keep NC and carry on with my life, I don't want to seem needy and I really don't want to ask her "Why, how, etc etc", if she wanted she would come over to me and tell me about the reasons why, so I keep an attitude with that.
I will be looking forward to your opinions,
thank your for reading my story