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    indyboy362 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Told her I was going on a date a few days after the breakup.

    So she broke up with me. We dated for three months and it was the most perfect relationship that either of us have been in. Unfortunately stress, insecurity and anxiety got the best of her and she ran away from the thought of an exclusive relationship. She needed to be on her own to get through her life problems. Anyway three days after the breakup as a Hail Mary text I said "hey I have a date lined up this Saturday but I still care for you. Do you want to meet up? If not then yea..." I didn't actually have a date, it was a desperation move.

    I hope that this wasn't that bad of a move tbh. I feel like she may have thought 'wow how could he have found someone else already!? I guess I'm lucky i broke up with him'. I'm hoping she didn't coz then it would be harder to get her back in the future.

    The following day she texts back saying "hey I'll text to tonight to see if I can make or or not". Then that night she says "hey my week is super hectic but I hope you have fun Saturday ". I couldn't tell if she was serious or she was just hiding her pain. I didn't respond to that. Then the next day on the evening she says "Hey *indyboy362, I hope all is going well with you!". Now I'm even more confused . Maybe she isn't that mad at me for having a date?

    So the plan now with me is to just do no contact. I'm a week in so far but I'm worried that the fact I told her I was going on a date will change everything once I reconnect in a month or two. Should I text her and say I didn't go on the date? Do I stick to no contact and reconnect later? I need help on this, thanks.

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    Default Re: Told her I was going on a date a few days after the breakup.

    DO NOT tell her you didn't go on a date .... it will make you look lame and insecure .... DO text her and say "I hope all is going well with you!" and put the ball back in her court

    Good Luck

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    Default Re: Told her I was going on a date a few days after the breakup.

    Definitely stick to your no contact plan. If you take back what you said about having been on a date, then you're making yourself look desperate to be with her -- which you definitely do not want her to think. Just be as casual and aloof with her as you can during the no-contact period while not acting like a jerk.

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    Default Re: Told her I was going on a date a few days after the breakup.

    think about it from her point of view

    You have told her you are going out on a date, then you don't contact her for a period of time, then you decide to make contact.

    If I was her I would be thinking, he has gone out with another girl for awhile and it mustn't have worked out and now he wants me back.

    Be very careful of the message you are sending her as it could bite you back later.

    I wouldn't tell her you made up the date as that would hurt her, but I would casually reply to your text so there isn't a total no contact period if you are serious of getting her back.


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