A year ago, my girlfriend of about 5 years and I decided to break up because I wanted to move closer school, get a job and improve my life. We lived together in LA before that for about 1 year and a half and I didn't feel I was gaining any kind of success where as she is very successful and accomplished. I took my frustrations out on her at times and we'd get into senseless arguments, so I decided it was best for me to move closer to where I could be successful. But this was 3 hours away from LA.
Now that I have gotten closer to where I felt I needed to be, I want her back in my life. But I fear that it may be almost impossible due the hostile nature of our breakup.
It has been close to a year since we've spoken. She wished me a happy birthday via text and I responded with a simple thanks. A month later, I texted her saying that I still have some of her things and asked if she'd like me to send them to her new address. She said that she still has some of my things as well and that we can meet in the middle to do an exchange.
I want to use this as an opportunity to move her back into my life. I don't know if she's dating anyone or how much she's moved on. But the fact that she's willing to meet me in person tells me one or two things: one, she misses me too and wants to see how I'm doing or two, she is well over me enough to be able to have face to face contact without her emotions getting in the way of continuing her new life.
I'm hoping that she misses me too and that I can game her into going out on a date with me so that I can then show her that I've become a much better person than who I was before. My plan is to ask her if she'd like to go out for dinner after we do our exchange and catch up.
My question to the community: at what point can I get into my honest feelings about how much I've missed her and would like to be with her? It seems like that would have to be established at some point because we live so far apart. Any other advice or comments would be greatly appreciated as well..thanks a lot!!