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    Viekas7 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    Hey guys!

    Try not to fall asleep, I tried to write the story as short as possible
    So, I dated this girl for 7 months, we started seeing each other way too often and I became totally AFC. She started to be distant, stopped laughing at my jokes, responses to texts etc only a few words. Should have noticed these signs!

    Anyway, I started the discussion of why she acts so distant and she said she needs time to think about stuff. Took all my stuff from her house and gave back her key. After two weeks she said that she is not sure if she wants to be with anyone right now. We agreed on the break up and I went no contact.

    Two weeks goes by and she sent me a text "I was thinking to ask you if you are at home so I could pick up my stuff on my way home but I got sick and went home." I replied: Okay, let me know when you are driving by next time and youīll get it then if I happen to be at home. Left it there and didnīt contact her again.

    Another two weeks goes by and she sends me this: "Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I havenīt forgotten about you. I almost suggested to meet but I have school and it starts early tomorrow (she goes to school in another city two days a month). So, maybe next time. I am also sorry if I have acted childish and stupid."

    I replied again that she calls me or sends a text when she drives by so we can meet and go for a walk or coffee. And she can get her stuff. We texted back and forth for half an hour and then I said I have to go.

    Two days later I sent her a text where I told her I had a really small speedo on when I was at the pool with a client (Iīm a physio by profession). It made me laugh and think about the time I had her bikini on when she left them at my place. She replied like instantly and we texted a little bit.

    Any advice?
    Should I let her get back in touch or should I make the effort to set up the meeting so "she can get her stuff back"?

    By the way, the stuff is two pairs of socks and a few lunchboxes..

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    Viekas7 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    Ok, so nothing guys? Just tell me if you need more info and I will tell you.

    I was thinking that I set up the meeting and weīll go for a walk (used to go for walks really often) or a cup of coffee and Iīll have something to do later that night so Iīll be able to leave easily and end on a high note. The meeting really has to be planned because we have 50 kilometers apart and wonīt see each other anywhere. On her commute she drives through the city I live in.

    Since break up I got a new haircut, bought some new clothes, started working out in the gym more often than the last six months, been on five dates with three different women and I have been out with my friends alot too.

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    Viekas7 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    Iīll update anyways. Itīll be like my journal for fuck ups

    She sent me a text on tuesday and asked what Iīm going to do on wednesday evening. I replied that Iīm gonna be home around seven but I have made plans with a friend later that night. I told that she has two options: go for a run with me or come to my place and clean my yard from the leaves that have dropped from the trees and scattered all over the place. She replied that the yard cleaning sounds good. Then I made a few cocky jokes and teased her a little bit. She played along and teased me back a little. Ended the convo and waited until she sent me a text the next day that she is on her way.

    She said itīs great to see me when she arrived and asked me if we really are going to clean the yard in the dark. I told her of course and started Kino straight away. Just a slight touch on her arm as we went outside. We laughed alot and I teased her and she played along. A little bit Kino here and there. She also asked what I have been doing and told me that she has been studying and went back to her old no life at all routine. She also told me that I had been an asshole during the last two months because I was really stressed out from work and didnīt go to the gym and was working way too much. I told her that I know that but donīt want to talk about that because that is water under the bridge and then asked her how was the play she went to last month. We spent an hour and a half outside and then I offered her a cup of tea as I said that she needs to go soon as I have to leave to meet my friend. I told her we should do this again some time and she said yes.

    Donīt know what is going to happen next Should I wait a couple of days before sending her a text or wait for her to contact me? Her birthday is a month from now so anything to work with that?

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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    And looks like no one cares so Iīll keep talking to myself then

    So after the meeting I waited two days and then sent her a text. She replied instantly and we texted a little. The convo went on for two days and we both sent like three texts. I answered her last text she sent on saturday on Sunday, and she replied from work. I ended the convo again by saying I have plans for the night and I got to go. She didnīt reply.

    Iīve noticed that alot of the threads have 100+ views and no comments. Would be really nice if someone helped!! I read alot of threads here but every situation seems really different from mine..

    Is she testing me if Iīm always available or waiting for me to take the lead and tell her to come and do something with me?

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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    I would say that you have invested enough at this moment. Stop texting her and continue with your life.

    If she contacts you, she is interesed, so just arrange another meeting and escalate.
    If she doesn not contact you or this happens after more than a week or so, she is just being the "good and polite" girl, which wants to keep you as a friend.

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    Viekas7 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    I waited and she sent me a text on tuesday saying she forgot to reply. Told me also that se had made an appointment with a psychotherapist to talk about her stress issues. We exchanged two texts and and I replied yesterday. Again she didn't reply, so maybe she texts back soon. In the text I told her that she's going bowling with me since she told me that I am not good at loosing. I also said that it' s good that she made that appointment.

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    Viekas7 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    Okay, Iīve been a little busy with work but a little update.

    Again, took her two days to reply. Reply came 1am on saturday. I waited almost three days and got an instant reply. She accepted the bowling challenge and said she is terrible at it. Didnīt set a date yet, but exchanged a couple of texts and told her a little about our guys night out on friday.. Little bit negging and managed to tease her about having a dirty mind. Texts are getting longer and she is using a lot more emoticons. I also said that Iīm going to a halloween party on friday. She said that she isnīt going to dress up or go to a party. I said that she doesnīt need to dress because she already looks like a halloween character. Didnīt invite her, mainly because she hasnīt met these friends and she doesnīt drink alcohol at all.

    Now I get a pretty quick answer and I managed to left some hooks in the convo that makes her initiate convo the next day. Iīv been the one who ends the convos and she replies to my messages. Propably enough of the text game at this point and Iīll call her in the evening and going to set the meeting on saturday. Itīs been about two weeks since we met the first time after the break up. I started kinoing the basic stuff when she was comfortable and laughing. Bowling should be easy way to escalate and create some Tension.

    Wish me luck guys! Also any advice or comments are welcome

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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    hey man
    i cant really tell if you want her back or just playing with her but thats a good thing
    i think you did a good job overall and that her attraction to you is growing back, i would stop texting her and just wait it out after you have the bowling night. And i think you can even fasten up your Kino and go for the kiss if everything place out nice next time you see her. just dont say anything about getting back this should be her move
    hope i help in anyway and good luck
    PS: i have a similar problem so if you still around the forum let me know and i will text you my situation if you want to help

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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    Use texts and phone calls only to arrange the next meeting in person not as a form of communication, I believe that is slowing down your progress.

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    Default Re: Dated 7 months, broke up about 2 months ago, ex initiated contact

    Hey guys! Had to move, bought a new car and had to make some advertisements for the christmas as I have my own physiotherapy business. Anyway, here is how the bowling and everything went..

    Bowling went great and we had a great time. We also had fun with air hockey and we had pancakes. She responded to Kino and didn't mind my hand on her thigh. She blushed and laughed alot. Right before she left we had a discussion how things are. She said she thought I was unaffected about our break up and also thst she thought I hated her because I seemed angry when I left and gave her the key.

    The next day I got the longest text ever written by anyone She said that the evening was fun. She said that I seemed like the guy who she got to know when we met and bla bla bla..

    We texted for five hours and she sent me a picture of herself in a dress she wore to her uncles wedding. Also said that it felt weird but really safe when I had my arm around her. We talked about doing stuff together and she said she is going to feed me next time so I won't eat her. Told her I like strawberries and she should bring a movie. Everything is looking great and she initiates contact everyday. Gonna see her again on monday and time for the f-close. Thanks for all your replies and advice guys!


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