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    DennisVT is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default ex said "i dont feel what i should". want her back

    Hi guys

    I have been dating this woman (36 years of age, I am 35) for a few weeks. In the beginning it was good, sex after second date. She said i was handsome, had a grat body, and nice eyes, and legs.
    After a few weeks she said "i dont feel what i think i should".
    I realized this, since she made less and less effort to make time for dates. She started to have other important things to do. Finally she said se didnt want to hurt me, that i was a nice guy (yikes!!), but the feelings just did not come. (i did not feel love either, it takes more then a few weeks for me, but i really liked her).
    We broke up, this was a month ago.

    I have read that the first thing i should realize, is what the problem was. I was simply a beta. I am a better then average looking guy, i have some money appartment, and a car. But i was acting beta. Truth is, i did not know shit about GAME, about PUAs, being alpha-male or beta. I live in Hungary, we dont really have any traditions here about these things. I did not now anything about shit test, and looking back now, i guess i failed one or two here and there...
    My self confidence was never really high (now even lower), therefore i did not project alpha-male attributes whatsoever.

    I started to learn the GAME 2 weeks ago, picked up a few things, but i need specific advice here.
    How to proceed?
    Thanks in advance.

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    ConnorMaxwell72 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: ex said "i dont feel what i should". want her back

    Quote Originally Posted by DennisVT View Post
    Hi guys

    I have been dating this woman (36 years of age, I am 35) for a few weeks. In the beginning it was good, sex after second date. She said i was handsome, had a grat body, and nice eyes, and legs.
    After a few weeks she said "i dont feel what i think i should".
    I realized this, since she made less and less effort to make time for dates. She started to have other important things to do. Finally she said se didnt want to hurt me, that i was a nice guy (yikes!!), but the feelings just did not come. (i did not feel love either, it takes more then a few weeks for me, but i really liked her).
    We broke up, this was a month ago.

    I have read that the first thing i should realize, is what the problem was. I was simply a beta. I am a better then average looking guy, i have some money appartment, and a car. But i was acting beta. Truth is, i did not know shit about GAME, about PUAs, being alpha-male or beta. I live in Hungary, we dont really have any traditions here about these things. I did not now anything about shit test, and looking back now, i guess i failed one or two here and there...
    My self confidence was never really high (now even lower), therefore i did not project alpha-male attributes whatsoever.

    I started to learn the GAME 2 weeks ago, picked up a few things, but i need specific advice here.
    How to proceed?
    Thanks in advance.
    Hey man, first I wanna say thanks for keeping it short and to the point. It's really annoying to have to read this wall of text - which I end up not replying to anyway.

    My first question is this - were you guys REALLY in a relationship? Like, did you guys have a serious sit-down and say "ok, from here we are boyfriend and girlfriend"? From what I'm gathering, it really seemed like you guys were simply going on a few dates together. You were only "dating" for a few weeks, so really, she isn't your ex. Just someone you were going on dates with.

    Here's the thing, man. Relationships go through all sorts of different phases. Of course the sex was really great in the beginning. There are so many different hormones being thrown around, and you even said it yourself: In the beginning she was complimenting you on your looks and how you had a great body - blah blah. But once the novelty of the sex was gone, she started to question whether she wanted to be with you. It's human nature to be really impulsive and wrapped up in sex in the beginning - it's how we've been hard wired since caveman to spread our seed.

    Honestly, I wouldn't even waste your time. I'm not saying that to sound harsh or anything, I'm just trying to be as honest with you as I can. I say this is for this reason: There's really not much investment on her part that any "get your ex back" advice would work with. You guys were never really together, or even for that long of a period. There's no real emotional attachment. (Say for example, you do the suggested "no contact" for several weeks - she's not really going to feel the impact of not having you in her life because she still remembers what it was like to not have you in her life.. which was normal to her.) There's not much to work with.

    Sure, there are ways to manipulate her and try to force her to be attracted to you.. but then what? You do it for yourself and just ended up manipulating a girl for selfish reasons that are deeper than just trying to sleep with someone.

    My advice to you is to let this one go, perfect yourself, really focus on your inner game, and you'll find you'll be able to attract girls who are 10 times better than her. And I suspect you'll be happier too. I think that there's too much investment on your end, you found a girl you really liked, but you were never really in a "relationship".


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