I would love any advice, particularly from a guys POV? Here's the story, as short as I can keep it: my boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago over a misunderstanding of a joke (he usually never misinterprets things like that, let alone over reacts that much!!! it was very out of character for him). We were together almost 1 year. We're only 20 & 21! Met through mutual friends (neither of us are really close with the mutual friends, bahah. We sort of met by a strange chance). We always got along great. He wanted to date me right away. Physical stuff was never important to him - we could move at any pace I wanted, but he wanted me as his girlfriend. He told me he never met someone so "chill" and so similar to his own personality. He had a ton in common. We fit into each other's lives very smoothly. About 6 months in, he was a little clingy and I started mentioning that we should take more space (we already live 1.5 hrs away from each other but he wanted to talk constantly, see each other every single weekend, etc) I have a busy life as a med student & working full time so it gets stressful, and I like to keep my social life separate so that I can be the best version of myself around the people I love. He always said he respected space but I always felt so bad because he started expressing concerns that I didn't really like him and stuff, which guilted me into thinking "wow amy, why are you being this way to this poor guy?!" so I ignored it and dealt with it. I never got tired of him and I loved hanging out with him and talking, so any need I felt for more space I ignored. However, it led to worse. It never got too bad, but little things started to bother me about him and what he was doing (out of character for me) and I was even kind of Bi*chy to him for no reason - I think I felt so smothered that he started seeing this different side to me - not that I hide my "true" self or anything, but I like to do my own things alone, I'm kind of a loner! I even started feeling kind of insecure, something I never usually waste my time with! Anyway, when he broke up with me he said it wasn't just over the stupid misunderstanding, it was everything. We were arguing too much and we should be able to relax and just enjoy each other, and I agreed with him. I told him we could easily do that, but he stuck to what he said - we are over. 3 days later, he came to say goodbye and was surprised by how normal I acted, like nothing happened. I didn't kiss him or anything, but I talked to him like normal, made sure the misunderstanding was cleared up, thanked him and told him I had a great time with him and that I would miss him, but that I would be fine without him and I knew he'd be fine, too. He seemed confused, like he was thinking, but he ultimately was determined to stick to what he said. He mentioned things that he would miss about me. He also asked me about being friends (although he hasn't reached out since then and it's been about a week now), and I said sure, indifferently. Since we live far apart, it's not like we would ever run into each other, which is good! We have always played videogames online together, so he mentioned that we should continue that because he really enjoys that. Him and his friends always usually ask me to come on and play games when they're online! Which is like, every day! I've logged in a few times since and they've been on, but no invite! He also mentioned that he wants to take me for "1 more ride" in his car, I LOVE his car, he's currently upgrading it and I was helping him work on it and he told me when he came over to say goodbye that he was almost finished it, and I said ooh that's awesome! And then he was like "Mmm...maybe I can take you for 1 more ride in it" kind of unsure, and I just casually said "yeah" and smiled and dropped it and moved on to end the convo. When I told him "everything was going fine, so I'm not really sure why we're breaking up. I mean I know we were fighting but we talked about this like 2 weeks ago and ever since then we were totally fine" (which was true) he didn't really know what to say and then he said something like "I just don't want to be one of those on again off again couples I sort of "confirmed" the breakup with him as he hugged me goodbye and he said yes, we are definitely broken up. Now I am doing no contact. I am still friends with him on facebook, and I post stuff regularly. Nothing with other guys, no in-your-face happiness, but just normal things like I always post, with friends, and random funny videos and everything. He doesn't comment on anything but I'm sure he sees it. Is it ok to keep him on my friend's list? (He deleted me when we broke up and then re-added me after we met up to say goodbye). When we said "goodbye" we were also using humor. I was being myself, like I said (we always joked with each other) so I just did that and at first he wasn't really responding to it but by the time he left it was like we were best friends again. But since then, I haven't heard anything. I did reach out once to see how his mom was (she had major surgery) I left it where he would NOT have to respond something like "I hope your mom did well!" and he responded. But his answers were super short and weird, not like him, but I left it alone! And now I am not contacting him at all, but there's one more little thing lol. I ordered an early holiday gift for him (before the dumping, of course) and I decided to just let it send. I think he will be getting it today. In the event that he texts me about it, should I respond or not at all? I was thinking of maybe waiting a day or so and then responding with something short and casual, letting him know that I ordered it before the breakup and "forgot" or something? Am I doing everything right? I won't reach out to him. After 3 or 4 weeks, should I assume he's not coming back? Any advice on what he may be thinking, what might happen next, what I'm doing wrong, what I should be doing? If he doesn't want me anymore, and it's worth it to him to leave, then I wouldn't want him anyway. But what if he regrets it, or isn't sure? And is too stubborn/scared/feels like he ruined it? Is there something I can do or say to make him know that he can come back, but also that I'm not waiting for him? I am focusing on myself, and being very positive but I don't want to send a "F*** you I've moved on to better things" message only because I am 100% open to him coming back, for a certain period of time, that is. He doesn't ever post much on FB or anything, he posts things on snapchat, but they've just been normal stuff, with friends, cars, etc, but I noticed he is talking to some girl (he's always been friends with her, so IDK if they're like "talking" now or just chit chatting or maybe he's like talking to her about the breakup, who knows!) Anyway I wanted to keep it short. Any advice or input would be appreciated! Thanks.