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Thread: She goes from hot to cold

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    Question She goes from hot to cold

    So long story short. Girl and I have talked for a while, about 7 months. She says she doesn't see it working out and wants to experience the dating scene (She was in a year long long distance relationship before me) so she wants to go out and have fun. Im hurt by this but I also have been going out and having my kicks as well.

    I want her back because she now seems like she is trying to settle down. She has been dating a few people and told me that she is getting close with one of them. Here is the problem though. She still flirts with me and say random stuff. For instance

    1.) We went out to a bar to grab drinks, she started telling me about the guys she was sleeping with and even showed me pics, I told her that was rude as fark and walked away from her. When I got out of the bathroom she told me I looked good and tried to wrap her arms around my waist but i moved them aside and went back to where we were sitting.

    2.) On the way home I wanted her (she was driving) I wanted to her to stay over my place for a bit when we arrived, she told me she didn't want to "because she knows exactly what would happen" 10 min later she looks over and sees me chatting on Tindr. She screams "REALLY?!" and literally breaks the speed limit to drop me off as fast a possible.

    3.) One night we were face timing and she told me she is upset we can't just be friends. I told her "I know what I deserve in my life and I don't settle" she called me selfish but minutes later starts flirting in the same convo saying things like "Don you give me those eyes" and kept smiling. Then when I go out she asks me where I was so I told her a friends house and she said "Oh friend huh. what kind of friend."

    4.) Tonight she asked me what I was up to and I told her I had plans to meet up with someone but couldn't due to an injury I got over the holidays. I told her I felt bad for promising to meet this bartender girl for drinks. She then replies with "A date huh. Thats cute I'm happy for you" and then starts telling me "Well, hope this doesn't hurt you.......but,This guy im talking doesn't want to drink .... We're getting close but he doesn't like to drink.... That's a problem." I told her that that sucked and asked her when she is free again because I wanted to give her a gift I got her for xmas. She told me not tonight because she is spending the night with this dude. I got a little beta here and told her to have fun with him but its not gonna amount to the fun we had. She stopped texting


    So what gives guys, there is a lot of shyt testing going on between the both of us, there is nagging and what feels like pushing and pulling, but I need to pull harder because I don't need her falling for this orbiter. She has a kid, and works full time so her off time is limited, I work retail so crazy hours and she refuses to come by my house because we are both horn dogs and know it will go down (Which I am dying to do again). How do I get her back on my team

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    Default Re: She goes from hot to cold

    She just dropped a bomb sell on me. She told me she has been sleeping over some dudes house often, really likes him and will make him her boyfriend soon. She then told me "I only want to be friends with you"

    I would appreciate some help. 70 people read this post. Can someone at least reply?

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    Default Re: She goes from hot to cold

    Go full no contact. Going to be hard but do not look at her snapchats, facebook, instagram, anything.

    Figure out your life.

    Blow up your social media to make her jealous.

    Start working out (or more often)

    Continue no contact

    End no contact and meet casually

    Don't make plans, wait 2-3 weeks then hit her up again

    Remain exciting/unpredictable, confident, push/pull

    Talk to her when you think you are both ready. A simple miss you at this point coming from you should make her go crazy.

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    Default Re: She goes from hot to cold

    Well Let me give you an interesting update. Been no contact since a few days before this post. Everything was going smoothly. My friends and I went to a late night club that closes at like 7am. We were drinking and dancing having a good time. I had my drink in the air and my head down when I was dancing. I noticed someone standing right in front of me. I mean like less than 6 inches from me. So I look up and THERE SHE WAS! Girl I was going no contact with, looking at me. with her arms on me smiling.

    My brain hit a brick wall. I just smiled and looked around and said "umm. Hey" She smiled and said I'll let you get back to your friends. My friends were as puzzled as I was. So we got back to drinking and partying. I walk to the bathroom and just see her sitting in a chair by herself on her phone, so I keep walking and just ignore the fact she was there. Next morning I wake up to a "It was nice seeing you last night" text. I waited for a few hours and said "You as well" She said " You were really getting it last night" Then sends me a snapchat of her smiling (Mind you she never uses snap chat. She had it for 7 months, never used it until now?) So I pulled a bit and told her she looked good in her snap. She said "awe thanks JT, you too".

    Next day I go no contact. She sends me a pic of her and another guy getting drinks via snapchat. Not sure if it's a friend a or not but whatever.

    Been a few days since that last pic and no contact still going. I haven't text or snap chatted.

    Your thoughts on this? Was it a a desperate attempt to keep me in her sights, an ioi or Shyt test?

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    Default Re: She goes from hot to cold

    I'd say a desperate attempt to keep you around as backup if she sent you a snapchat of her getting drinks with another guy. Sounds like she got sick of waiting for you to talk to her and jumped the gun with trying to make you jealous. Fight fire with fire. Send her a snapchat of you at a club or something. Fake it if you have to. See if it gets a rise out of her, if it does; go from there with a conversation or even break the ice and ask her to hang out if it goes well.

    In my opinion you will look needy though if reaching out after a snapchat sent of her and another guy. She probably wanted to make you jealous and by reaching out she may believe it worked and she has won. So I'd say either send her a snapchat of you having a blast like advised above, or wait for her to reach out again with a selfie, or text like she did.

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    Default Re: She goes from hot to cold

    So I went out with my friends last night. We went to a bar then a Strip Club. She texted me as asked me what I was up to so I told her I was going to the strip club and she said she would meet me there (She is bi). So I go with my friends we are drinking and dancing. She shows up drunk or tipsy I wasn't sure.

    Long story short she watched me give a Stripper a dollar. So walked up. Grabbed my arm and said "no no no no" and pulls me in close to her. I look at her confused at this point and she goes "Im just kidding". So I go back to the stripper and give her another dollar (The stripper is my friend and super cool but my ex doesn't know that).

    Me and my ex are joking around and BSing about stuff. I thought it was going really cool until she SLAMMED on the breaks. She stopped laughing and sunk her head down. She said she had something to tell me. "I have a boyfriend now. It's been a week.' I looked at her and just said "We'ere done here" and walked away. She grabbed my arm again and said how she was sorry and just wants me to be happy blah blah blah. I told her to never throw that in my face again and I left.

    Ran into her outside and told her I wanted to talk. We go to her car and she says we are on two different paths to happiness. Then proceeded to show me a gift her new dude bought her. At that point I didn't say I word I just got out of the car and left. Told her to no longer contact me. She goes back inside. Tells all my friends how I "hate her now" and leaves.

    So what gives. How is she going to agree to meet me at a strip club. Pull me away from a stripper. and then say she just wants friends and rubs her relationship in my face? My bro text her the next day to see what she would tell him and she told him she wanted to be friends with me for a long time. Never came over to my house for a while because she knew it would turn into sex and doesn't want to lose me cause I make her smile and happy. But she can't see a relationship.

    So help me out guys. Multiple times she has clearly indicated interest and jealousy but doesn't want a relationship with me? Also when and a big when should one attempt the BF destroyer.

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    Default Re: She goes from hot to cold

    Alright for time for a bit of an update. So after all whole blw out at the Strip Club, I snapchat messaged her and told her I wanted to meet up and talk. I wanted to understand what happened and I wanted her to be sober. She ignored my message. In fact she left it unread forover a week. I think she was doing that on purpose considering she would respond to all my messages before our fight instantly. Anyways she replies randomly after a week with "I'm just going to give you space that you need". We went back and forth a bit and she told me "I found what I wanted and im happy".So I can tell this puppy love after being in a relationship after ONE WEEK is really getting to her head.

    I replied with how im proud of the woman she has become for the year I have known here. Maybe in the future we can give things another try. How I refuse to settle for "friends" and how I am a firm believer in never setle for less than you deserve. I signed off with saying I care about her, I miss her, and I hope she finds herself smiling when she thinks of me, because I find myself smiling when I think of her.

    Im not going to reply if she messages back. Frankly I don't think there is any use in talking to her for a while. Not until she starts missing me. Which suks because I hate this whole situation. My question to you guys is, do you even think there is a chance with this one? I mean, there is some seriously ioi from her. But now she is in a relationship. Should I go NC for a while and then come back and act like im trying to be friends? Or should I never entertain the friends idea. I don't want to be friends but if it could be a trojan horse to get her back im cool with that.

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    Default Re: She goes from hot to cold

    Honest advice:

    Pick up your friends and go out. Have fun, get numbers, close as much and how much you can. Go full no contact and do the game. If she texts you, act like you don't give a shit, but you're still glad that she texted you (so she can text you again if she feels the need). In case she wants to meet up, nope. Either you don't have the time or you can't. If she mentions her BF, ignore or throw an positive comment (possibly with a smiley). And the last one, keep your text shorter than hers and do not text twice in a row. By that time, if you do not get over her and still want her back or you do not meet another girl, BF destroyer should do it's job. I wouldn't recommend doing BF destroyer while the relationship is still fresh, 'cause she needs some time to familiarize with her boyfriend.

    That's what I'd do, cheers and good luck!


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