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Thread: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

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    Default GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    We've had a beautiful 3 year relationship but towards the end I got needy.

    Broke up and worst week of my life. She didnt talk to me. I begged for her back. Bad just BAD.

    She started talking to me sayin we're broken up. But she'll travel 8 hrs to see me on my bday.


    So I have a week to formulate my game plan:

    - Dont be needy, just act cool and aloof like when we first fell for each other. I was a total bitch the last month.

    - I was thinking about crying and holding her when I first see her. But judging from how that did -nothing- right when she broke up with me- good idea or bad idea?

    - I'll try not to mention any of the bad stuff that gets us arguing:

    1. How is this line?: "I dont wanna get into it or mention it, but yeah I was being needy and jealous. Thats not me. I needed to remember who I was, the guy you fell in love with."

    - Be confident like youre gaming a new girl.

    2. When should I introduce more-than-friends Kino? (Ex: shes probably not going to be receptive if I put my arm around her right away.)

    3. Should I remain aloof when she calls me leading up to the meet up? For example dont call her back for day.

    4. Should I ever mention "Maybe we just need some time off" or "We said things we didnt really mean" ? Doesnt this give her the option in her head to say no to you?

    5. Being funny will help? Or is it more about being seductive?



    * Let it be known, this girl wanted babies with me. Was considering marrying me. So of course I am still in love with her. And this topic will mean something to me.

    Any other ideas, suggestions, and successful stories will help.

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    Another thing to note:

    2 days ago I ordered flowers to arrive today. Last night we were playful and teasin each other.

    Then all of a sudden when she got the flowers she texted me saying why did you do that we're not together?

    Lol wtf. Can anyone explain that to me? Now I dont know if I should keep teasin her or if I should only talk to her if she initiates contact.

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    Quote Originally Posted by OldmemberOfPuA View Post
    Another thing to note:

    2 days ago I ordered flowers to arrive today. Last night we were playful and teasin each other.

    Then all of a sudden when she got the flowers she texted me saying why did you do that we're not together?

    Lol wtf. Can anyone explain that to me? Now I dont know if I should keep teasin her or if I should only talk to her if she initiates contact.
    Cant seem to edit. Basically last night, reminding her of old times made her laugh and we teased each other. It seemed to be working.

    She got flowers and it reminded her of me trying to get her back. Should I keep texting and teasing her (seemed to work) or wait for her to miss me a little?

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    Quote Originally Posted by OldmemberOfPuA View Post
    Cant seem to edit. Basically last night, reminding her of old times made her laugh and we teased each other. It seemed to be working.

    She got flowers and it reminded her of me trying to get her back. Should I keep texting and teasing her (seemed to work) or wait for her to miss me a little?
    Give her some time man. You went through some things and give her time. Yes, let her miss you a bit.

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    My one friend said it might take multiple trips but its good she wants to see you.

    1 week before meeting her is tricky. Because if the mood isnt right and she goes into ignore mode The days beforehand, the trip can end up bad.

    I was even thinking of pulling a "something came up" thing before the trip if the mood isnt right. I think its key to get back to the good mode before she meets.

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    Go and read Cody's post "How To Get Your Ex Back By Cody". Read it, read the links and repeat, repeat and repeat at least one more time!!

    I know break ups are hard, I've been there man.. It sucks hard!! But buying flowers will get you no where, crying will get you no where, trying to come up with sneaky ways of getting her back will also get you nowhere.

    If it were me, and I know this is a lot easier said than done, I would tell her not to worry about coming for your birthday! If you have to come up with an excuse that's fine, otherwise just tell her you don't think it's a good idea and leave it at that.
    Aside from that, there's not much more I can add that Cody doesn't cover in his thread.

    "Basically last night, reminding her of old times made her laugh and we teased each other. It seemed to be working."
    "My one friend said it might take multiple trips but its good she wants to see you."
    Don't be fooled here!! Just because she broke up with you doesn't mean she doesn't miss you too. Of course she wants to see you but that doesn't mean she wants you back!!
    You're letting her off the hook! She broke up with you and she needs to accept the consequence of that! And that means she doesn't have access to you like she did before!

    Hope that helps mate

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    I got drunk and texted her like crazy. Anything I fires back she just seemed to say i hurt her, i hurt her etc.


    Now with two days of crunk texts idk where to go. She wanted me to come up to see her which is stupid.


    Can you go more into missing you vs wanting you back! If you could get her to kiss you or whatever on the trip wouldnt thar be a good sign of gettint together?

    Either way its annoying but ai had fun talking to othwr people tonight

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    BREAKTHROUGH:

    Even though I crunk texted last night. I think theres still some hope.

    I read a few sites on getting back the ex and its amazing how CLEAR it is to me.

    Dont mention the break up. Keep everything positive and use humor!

    She still wants to see me this weekend but after last night it puts me in the negatives.

    Im debating whether or not to push that to next week so that I can do more of the "give her a chance to miss you" things while keepin positive. If I wait til next week = maybe really done for good. It sounds like she misses me from her texts.

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    Have you read the thread I linked yet?!

    Just in case, here it is again: How To Get Your Ex Back By Cody. Seriously go and read it and absorb it's message

    Now, what consequences has she suffered for breaking up with you? None! She dumped you and you're still her best friend, you're letting her off the hook.
    You don't want to be a complete jerk, but stand up for yourself! Put YOU back on the pedestal. She's not going to have a chance to miss you properly if you're there every time she wants to talk to you trying to be positive and humorous.
    "She still wants to see me this weekend"
    I'm sure she does! But she doesn't get that privilege anymore. She lost that option when she dumped you.

    Quote Originally Posted by OldmemberOfPuA View Post
    Can you go more into missing you vs wanting you back!
    Not really, but I'll try:
    She broke up with you, she didn't turn off some magic switch that decides whether she likes you or not.
    Of course she still wants to talk to you and obviously wants to see you.. just don't be fooled into thinking that this means you two are going to be getting back together next week. Even if she comes up for your birthday and sleeps with you.. it doesn't mean sh1t!!

    That's kind of all over the place, but it's Monday morning and I really should be working so the that's the best you're gonna get from me right now lol

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    Default Re: GF of 3 Years: Broke up last week, but coming to see me on my Bday

    Its unlikely she will meet you on your birthday or not. However there a bit you must do. First stop sending her flowers and trying hard to get her back, because your situation is not that complicated. Also do not torture yourself by over thinking this. It will work out.


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