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    Exclamation Help me! if you ever loved someone with all your heart.. im a wreck.

    Ok.. I'm new to this asking online help but I don't know what else to do,I'm desperate ,hurting and lost.... So here it girl friend just left me 2 weeks ago... We were togather almost two years.. We were an amazing couple... You know that couple everyone is lil those to are awesome togather..that was us.... We could talk about anything.. We liked each others friends....we had the best,amazing sex.. We enjoyed the same things.. Finished each others sentences, had our own language.... I'm 31 and she's 24... Age is not a thing for me and her... We were always laughing ... We were soul mates.... Well she is in college.. 3 more years til she gets her masters... About 6 months ago I had to move 2 hours away from her... And she would go to school and come down on the weekends and it would be great... She could focus on class and I could make money... Well about a month ago she called me.. We talked then she says.. Hunny, I feel like I do the majority of the effort in the relationship... I dont know what that means really so I was just like hunny I know.. I'm working hard.. I just got a truck I gotta fix up so I can come see u and u not have to drive all the time... Well I go see her that weekend cuz she has to go to Canada for her cousins wedding for 10 days.. I send her im's everyday cuz I can't text another country she says cuz it will cost money.. So I send im's everyday so when she gets home... She will know how much I miss her... Well when she gets back... I notice 5 missed calls from her... I call her back,excited... She goes... We got to talk... I knew... I dont know how.. But I knew... She broke up with me over the phone and sounded very cold.. Like I was talking to a robot... She was at her friends.... I couldn't sleep that night... I took off work.. Drive two hours to her house to try to save us... I got her a card and flowers (not roses,she hates roses).... I knock on the door... She opens it... And looks ... I guess scared and confused... I go can we talk... She goes about what... I say us... She goes there's nothing to talk about... Bare with me readers it was a 3 hour talk.... We sit down on the porch right next to each other... I'm starting to cry as we are talking... And so is she... I'm like why can't we fix it... Dont just throw us away..she says I'm done... She says I need some water do u want some water... She comes back out... I go water fixes everything huh.. We both start laughing.. (inside joke)... So goes its hot out here, do u want to go inside.. Just to talk though... I go.. Sweety, I didn't come all this way to fk you.. I came cuz I love you and want to fix this... So we go sit at the table.. Next to each other holding hands...caressing each others hand...I tell her.. Stop crying hunny, I hate it when u cry... She says I hate it when u cry,u never cry... I tell her I'm srry, she says stop apologizing, I'm the one who should be saying I'm srry to u for hurting u.. I ask what's wrong why are u doing this...she said.. Her highlight use to be coming to see me.. But she slowly forgot about me.. Forgetting to call.. Not careing about coming to see me...i said I thought u were just busy... She says I'm unhappy with the relationship and something is missing between us.... Why didn't u say something so we could fix it.. She said she did... She feels like she puts in all the effort... I go was I that bad... She crys.. And goes oh no! You did nothing wrong, your the best boyfriend I ever had.. I don't regret a second of us... We hugg and cry and each others shoulder.....we do the fb break up right next to each other... She goes now what in a confused may.. Do we delete each other from fb and numbers... I go dont be mean... She crys and says I'm so sorry I didn't mean for that to sound cold I just think it will be easier for us if I don't see ur posts and u dont see mine... She goes ok I got it.. We can just block each others feed... I go umm ok... And then she gets teary again and says... I dont think we should be friends or hang out and if stay in touch it should be very rare cuz she don't want to give me the impression that we are ever going to get back together..(that felt like a double barrel to the chest)... She says I think its the best decision for her... I hold her hand.. She rubbing my head a lil...I go... I know I should go.. But I'm skerd once I leave we may never do this again or see each other... We cryed... It start to rain... She say u gotta go or u will get stuck in this storm...i tell her I love her.. We kiss our last kisses like 10 times...I say can u say u love me one last time... She goes no.. I don't want to lie to u... I get in my car.. Look back at her on the porch... I say to her.. I will always love you... Before I can say another word.. She loses it crying and runs inside crying.... That's it.. The next day I fb her friend pleading.. She goes u need to give her her space and leave her alone if its ment to be she will come back... I'm not the one who left u...she was a **** about yea .. Wtf readers.. Help this broken heart... Maybe it was the distance... Maybe cuz I don't make alot of money... Maybe cuz I'm not a college graduate ... I dont know what to do.... She is using the no contact rule as am I... Is tho Tim for me to get my shit straight or something... I love her so much... Tho is so painful.. I'll do anything to fix us

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    Default Re: Help me! if you ever loved someone with all your heart.. im a wreck.

    I think most of the guys here know your story,
    And that's why some if us started going on the PUA journey and adventure. Maybe my reply is going to be a bit cold but it's the hard truth.
    I will start with your age first, Loads of men round your age think that life ends at 30. I will tell you that all men who tell me that are just getting started. It doesn't end here. Sadly we all know it but we just have to hear it from someone else to believe it. Nether does love, it comes back. Unless your a vampire or your dead you will feel love again. Love in general goes further then just a girlfriend, love is your grandma, your brother, your friends, your mom and dad. That's more important then a girlfriend focus on that and move on.

    Stay Natural,

    "The act of taking the first step is what set apart the winners from the losers"
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    "Natural routines are the PUA's paint brushes"
    - Gotcha

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    Default Re: Help me! if you ever loved someone with all your heart.. im a wreck.

    I'll do anything to fix us
    trying to get her back will only make this more painful than it needs to be.

    thus I'm not even going to give you any advice for getting her back. I am however, going to give you some wisdom about breakups.

    I could go on and on about why she broke up with you and what you should learn from it. but that would only force you to regret what happened and get stuck in your head destroying your confidence.

    know that what you had was good while it lasted, and now you've come to a new chapter in life, one that doesn't involve her. this is the best time to improve your life for the better. when life gets you down, it also gives you motivation to push yourself in the right direction.

    there's no sense in dwelling on the past. if she doesn't want you in her life, she's not meant to be in yours. yes its harsh, life isn't fair, it arbitrarily cuts off your air. so make the best of your circumstances, and work towards better things.

    also, you must always be finding ways to improve yourself in any way you can.


    education: you don't have to go to college to be an educated person, my recommendation is that you get a library card, and start reading any books that catch your interest. you can learn a lot by reading, (even most fictional books are based in facts)

    work: always be on the lookout for opportunities to better your economic situation. maybe that involves picking up some extra overtime, maybe it involved doing some side work over the weekend, maybe it involves sucking up to your boss for a chance at a raise.

    health: find better ways to stay healthy, maybe that involves packing a sandwich every day instead of going to McDonalds for lunch, maybe it involves doing push ups every morning. maybe it involves making better life choices like quiting cigarettes, or drinking less often.

    use this as a great motivation to make yourself more attractive and to become who you want to be.

    find new ways to be a better you, and more amazing women will come.

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