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Thread: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

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    Exclamation Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    Hey guys, I've been with this girl for a year and two months now. Things started to go downhill and we stopped making petting and she became cold and even refused to kiss me sometimes.
    Now she's been on holydays with her friends and I was really scared she could cheat on me and so I've gone to her in the middle of her vacancy, she refused to stay with me and told me that I was dead to her.
    We made a deal, If I had come back home before her then when she was home she would have loved me a lot more, so I did.
    Sometimes she tell's me that she cheated on me and she's angry and does not reply to my messages, other times when she replies she said that she haven't done anything.
    Today she told me that I ruined her life and that she will sue me for stalking, I don't have done anything to her and I can't understand.
    How the hell do I get her back?
    I am willing to pay
    A little background on me: I'm the captain of a rugby team and I have a nice body (she used to love it but then she told me that It sucks), I am 18 year old and I have a car.

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    Default Re: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    lol first what did you do to her
    second sounds like you have to charge her to the game and let her go

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    Default Re: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    How do you get her back !?!?!?!!! Uhhhhhhhhh, you don't, you let her go and move on .... unless your goal is to become the creepy stalker that all girls fear
    "The purpose of our lives is to be happy" - his Holiness the Dalai Llama of Tibet

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    Default Re: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    There's way too many issues here man. Your only course of action is to forget her and stop contacting her completely. Perhaps in the future (I'm talking years down the road) when you two mature more you can start something up with her again. Stop contacting her immediately. It's your only choice at this point and the only way you can regain some power (she has all the power right now).

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    Default Re: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    Hey man you are young. I know when I was 18 I thought I seen it all and have done it all. Everybody makes mistakes and mistakes are good. But, only if you learn from them. Otherwise your a fool.And it sounds like you have made a few mistakes here. I dont care how fine you think this female is, she doesn't respect you. I've seen it a million times guy's know that their old lady has fooled around on them and them keep them around because they look at it like it's a piece of guaranteed cat.


    Any attempt to win her back at this point makes you look weak and you being a rugby player in shape I'm assuming strong might actually bring pleasure to her knowing that she's the one that can bring you down. It sounds twisted because it is but you are actually boosting this girl's confidence while yours is dwindling away. My advice would be to cut ties with her no goodbye's or your missing out on a good guy.none of that sh!t. Cut her off and forget about her. And trust me everybody on here no matter how big a player they attempt to be behind this screen knows that is not easy.


    Chances are that after awhile of you ignoring her , when she's feeling down and out she might even try to rekindle old feelings but don't be fooled. Remember the mistake thing in the beginning of this post. Fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me. Another note, you don't get back at her by calling her names even if she baits you. It lets her know that she has gotten to you and it will bring her pleasure. It's sort of like poker, you don't show your cards until its time to clear the pot. It will kill her that your being non-responsive to the baiting.


    I don't care if your sitting at home doing nothing as far as she knows your out having the time of your life with other women and she could've been along for the ride but, she's not. I could go on for days with game because I've made them mistakes so don't be embarrassed. But, I will leave you with this. You are the prize and don't forget it. Keep telling yourself that. What does this girl really have to offer besides looks? The answer doesn't matter because even if she makes you feel like a million dollars at moments and feel like trash on others are you gaining or losing? Don't try to jump oceans for people who wouldn't jump puddles for you. If you play this thing right and she is a truly bad person don't forget her friends might even take a keen interest in you if you play your cards right.


    You might have to wait for her to two time them but don't rule out the possibility.
    Good Luck

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    Default Re: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    I want her back because the feeling of having some power on her is so good knowing that she is so strong.
    in our relationship one is always weak and the other dominates, well now I am on the wrong part of the road.
    I have not contacted her but we agreed on a day to talk about us, should I see her?
    I have only seen her once and I was in a car with two other Girls and some of my friends, I said hello to her and gone for my way, but she doesen't seemed jealous.
    Am I doing something wrong here?

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    Lightbulb Re: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    Hey, man. Been there, done that.

    Actually I've been learning about the game (and changing my life for good) for a few years now, but I never got into a forum. I was just browsing between threads to learn a little bit more and I found yours, I felt so related that I just needed to share you the experienced I gained.

    As I just said, I got through a similar situation a few years ago. It's easy to commit these mistakes when you're young and unexperienced, but those mistakes make you learn a lot. The best thing you can do right now is this: STOP, continue your life as if she never existed.

    I know the feeling of wanting to get a girl back, I know you think "I got her once, I can get her again" and a bunch of other irrational thoughts. Here I'll give you a few points to think about:

    1) You can't miss someone you always see.
    You know how people say "you never realize what you had until it's gone"?, well, that's the thing, in order for her to miss you, you need to be GONE. You need to put distance between her an you right now, not just to be missed but also because girls get used to see you as "just a friend" (or even a stalker if you keep insisting too much). Even if she saw you with a bunch of girls, she won’t get jealous because she still has the power, she knows you will continue begging.

    This is the thing, think about boxers, boxers must retire when they’re in their prime, while they’re still undefeated… Why? Because otherwise people will see them lose and remember those times they were defeated in front of everyone. The same happens whit girls, when girls start having this type of attitude towards you, you should retire quickly without making drama or insisting too much, this will force her to only have good memories about you, and therefore miss you, otherwise she will always remember you as the creepy guy who insisted too much and lost all the attraction he gained a few years ago.

    Don’t be needy, neediness is for betas, neediness kills attraction, you’re supposed to be an alpha, alphas walk away as soon as they feel the girl is having an unpleasant attitude. Alphas don’t need to tolerate attitudes, they have a bunch of women waiting for them, they have balls, and they have a life.

    2) She isn't all that.
    Just remember there’s always a girl who is hotter, nicer, smarter, more down to earth, less full of sh…, etc. She’s not the only one and you now it, give yourself some value, man. Don’t hesitate about ending a relationship with a girl that doesn't treat you as she should, it’s not about her, it’s about you, you deserve better.

    3) Live your life.
    There’s nothing more attractive than a man who lives his life. What do I mean with that? Once you end your relationship with her, you’ll have free time to do a bunch of stuff, go out with your friends, find some girls, play sports, exercise, read, play, etc. Do whatever the f… you feel like doing. The best thing about this is that you won’t be more attractive just to her but to all the women in your life, now it’s your time, get more women in your life.

    4) Don’t become friends with her.
    This is a stupid thing a lot a guys do just to not lose contact whit the girl they like even if the relationship is over. This is a killer for 2 reasons, first one: She will get used to see you as a friend, remember what I said about memories? Well, now the memories she had about both of you being in a relationship will fade away and be replaced with memories about being friends. She will get used to seeing you in a friendly (non-sexual) way, and this will only get worse with time. The second reason is that being in her life as a friend, you will see her dating other guys or hooking up with someone else, do you really want that? Hell no, let her live her life without knowing what she does, believe me… this is the better way. Plus, you will forget about her once you put distance between, and start hooking up with other girls.

    5) Be “busy” for her.
    So, this is what you will do. Make no drama, she’s already tired of the drama, you won’t call her to break up, you won’t meet her to talk about the relationship (if you do, you will only give her a perfect scenario to break up with you), you just start being busy for her. She already told you to stop looking for her, so just do it, believe me… there’s no need for a breakup, just live your life and start being “busy” for her, tell her that you have things to do whenever she tells you that she wants to hang out. Don't be rude or act sad whenever she talks to you, just give no importance to whatever she says and play it cool, show her that you have no time for her, show her that she is not your priority anymore.

    6) Don’t come back.
    This is heavily related to point number 5. Believe me, this will happen, she will try to get your attention back, but that doesn't mean that she loves you or that things will go OK if you go back to her. NO, this only means she's human and a woman, they get used to attention and seek for it once they lose it, it’s a basic principle, it’s not like she loves you or wants to make everything right (even if she tells you so), it’s just that she want the attention back, if you give it to her, she will only realize that things aren't the same anymore and dump you again, then you will end up feeling worst (Sadder? Angrier?) than how you feel right now.

    7) It’s not the end of the world.
    She’s ok, you’re ok. She won’t move to another country or die anytime soon. She will still be there for you to gain her back in a few more years, just not now, now it’s not a good time, just think positive and keep present that you still have the power to get her back… but don’t do it, because of all the drama that’s been going on, you’ll have to wait a couple of months (maybe even years) to get her back. But let me tell you something, if you follow the advices that everybody gave you here, you won’t want her back at all, you will find a bunch of hot girls and forget about her, that’s what happened to me, that’s how I learned.

    Good luck, man. God bless you.

    PD: English is not my main language, so ignore any mistakes I may had while writing, LOL.

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    Default Re: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    Update: She asked me to take her to city with my car and I refused.
    She said to me that she will hang put with another man and I said to her that my life is great without her and that I don't care.
    I then discovered that she lied to me again because she is not going out with anybody.
    Tonight I posted a pic during my workout and tomorrow I will go with a female friend to the near city and we will do a lot of pics.
    Am I doing this right?

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    Default Re: Really need help on this. 18 year old in a really bad situation

    Yeah, that's great. Posting pictures with girls is always a high value demonstration, just don't over do it because it would look like you're trying to impress someone, and trying to impress is not alpha.
    Preferably make your female friend post the pictures and tag you, that ways it doesn't look like you're showing off your hot friend, she's the one doing it. You could also try to socialize with local girls and take a bunch of photos with them, just remember to live your life and do things to have a good time not to make her jealous or mad.
    To me it seems like you're doing fine.


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