I posted a similar question in the wrong forum. I have an updated Magic Letter that I am planning on sending today. Its been over 2 weeks. They say 3 weeks is the right time but given that we didn't have a full blow relationship I think things hopefully calmed down. Anyway here is my message. I don't have an email for her so I'm going to send this through facebook. As well as a request. I know bit mistake but its what I got.
This letter to me serves two purposes. 1) to try to get her back as a friend and 2) if she doesn't want that then I can (for me anyway) attain closure and move on.
Pretty much this girl broke things off via text. She was super pissed at me for something foolish I had done. I suppose being pissed is good because it shows that she cares.
The magic letter is something I read that follows a formula: Open with something that has a powerful emotional charge, second part involves something to effect that you are saying she is not the person you thought she was (girls hate to be seen in a negative light) and then finally the hook where you basically say you might be wrong about her and you want to be friends. Seems simple enough right?
here is my letter
Hello….I was cleaning out my inbox when I found this. I figured out though that this was from our night at Ra. I have been thinking a lot about that last week when shit got crazy between us. I understand that you cutting it off was for the best. Fuck I would have done it too if you were treating me that way. I respect your decision but I just need a minute of your time to share something with you.
Before I do that, I just want to make one thing clear. I really cared for you. The real you won me over, from your no nonsense tell it like it is style, to the way you would smile at me so shy and lay your head on my shoulders when I held your hand. I loved your uniqueness and willingness to be spontaneous with me. There was a sense of adventure and excitement when we were together. The energy was high and sparks flew during our nights together. MOST of all though, I loved how genuinely loving and empathetic you were with everyone, especially your family. You saw the issues I have with my family and you gave me advise and helped me get perspective. You have such a close bond with your mom and sisters, I have always respected you for that ability to love endlessly.
Also, you were the most beautiful woman in the world to me. I would have sung that to you ever day and never gotten sick of it. I would have given you the world. I adored you and I deeply cared for the person you seemed to be….
However what I have realized over the past week is that I might have been wrong about who you truly were. I was immature and stupid and yes I text you the most stupid shit ever and I regret that every day but never for a second did I think you would just drop me over text….you even said that was a shitty thing to do. I understand you were mad at me and wanted to hurt me but it wasn’t fair to handle it that way. I was confused and you had me at a point where your actions weren’t consistent with the person I thought I knew you to be.
The thing that also pissed me off is how you just grouped me into the mix of other douche bag players without any consideration for how I had always treated you with respect and adored you. I never once tried playing you and wouldn’t ever think of seeing someone else while we were together yet without hesitation you label me as a player. I tried to get together with you that Friday night. You tell me that you can hang out and then you don’t answer my calls and tell me later you were out with your friends. Dude that hurt and I felt like I was the one being played. I feel that maybe you used that situation where I was acting stupid as an opportunity to break it off. All those things that made me deeply care for you felt like a lie and I was just being played.
Despite these doubts….I believe that the universe brings people together for a reason and I have to trust in all those things that made you special to me from the beginning. We only have so much time in this world and only so many people we can let into our lives. I’m not asking you to take me back and give me a second chance. I respect your decision, however I happen to think you are special and it would be unfortunate if we couldn’t make peace and be friends. There could be some fun memories ahead of us. Shit I still have those monster mash tickets and would love to take someone who would love that show as much as me. I can’t think of a better person to take than you.
Anyway, I’m going to send you a friend request through here….I took some time thinking about whether to do that so I understand if you will need some time to think about it as well.
I know this got a little long but I appreciate you taking the time to read what I wanted to share with you.
I wish you the best no matter what you decide.
P.S. I hear a hookah is a common way people in the middle east make peace…jus sayin.
Gonna send it today. Wish me luck. I'll let you know the outcome.