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    Zoro is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    Hello PUA Nation,

    Hope everyone is doing well. About two weeks ago everything was fine and dandy leading up to Christmas. The GF of 10 years was coming home in 2 weeks after being gone for 1.5 years, work was going well, I'm fit, got money, everything's good..... Boom out of nowhere as I planned on speaking with my gf on Watsaap she ends it with me. Now before I go into why she was in England and what had happened il give you a quick break down of our past.

    Past: I met this girl when i was 13 years old (high school), Were now 26. I liked her best friend at the time and we ended up clicking right then and there. We dated for a year in grade 9 and I ended up cheating on her with her best friend. We had a small break and she had her fun with random guys to get back at me(including my best friends lol) but eventually we decided hey we love each other, lets stop this. After that we were good until grade 12. I went away for soccer for two years where I was about an hour drive from her but we would see each other on weekends and talk on the phone every night. For two years we were perfect and we were both faithful and felt like we could take on anything. We made it through cheating in high school and then a 2 year long distance relationship. I came home in 2010 and then finished school while being with her for another 5 years. Everything was perfect and we both felt like we were best friends and did everything together. She graduated college about 1.5 years ago and wanted to travel, this was always the plan. She finished her education in teaching and thought it would be cool if she found a place where she could get paid room and board while gaining teaching experience, well guess what she found one. She was so sared to go but got offered a gig with teaching experience in England for 1.5 years. I obviousley didnt want her to go but it didnt feel right to not let her have this amazing experience because of me. I also didnt think anything of it because I knew nothing could change what we had. Well that 1.5 years was coming to an end in 4 days from now and last week she called me and broke up with me....

    Her reasons for wanting it to end and my responses:

    - I never wanted to hang out with her family as they wanted me to come over every single day. I had stayed at their cabin for weeks on end, even babysat their dog so they new me well enough. I admit I wasn't adamant on coming over everyday. The thing was back in the day when we broke up in high school this was a major issue so i worked on it to make her feel better and it got better. Overtime it went back to normal but she never brought it to my attention, not even once or I would have reached out to the family more. So this excuse felt like B.S to me as I would have worked on it.

    - She said I never even came out to see her in Europe....I honestly had financially been drained here for family reasons and couldn't get away. She had never once mentioned she even wanted me too though. We have always been good with communication so for her not too say anything doesnt make any sense. I admit because we had an 8 hour time difference it was tough to skype and always be on top of things but I made sure to say I love you and goodnight everytime I went to bed. I even said Ill come out right now on December 27th, I was ready to go. She said it wouldnt have changed anything and is too late.

    - I asked did you meet anyone, and she said no. I think she would be honest with me as all the cards were on the table and I didnt feel like she would lie to me like that.

    - She said she has changed so much and doesn't think she will make me happy, whatever the fuck that means. Did she gain 40 lb?

    Our ending of the conversation was her saying how much she still loves me and Im her best friend and she still thinks we should talk. Of course because I fucking love her I was like yah thats a great idea blah blah blah, I'm dumb I know. So the next couple days ago by and im trying to be the bubbly guy and happy/jokey person she always loved hoping she will fall back with me when she gets home which will be 3 days from now. Then one night I'm like fuck this are u kidding me, I waited this long being faithful when I had pussy thrown at me every weekend....so I wrote an email to her addressing all her statements. She responded the next day with a long one back saying at the end, I didn't want to say this because it seems harsh but I just don't love you anymore. Well truthfully its what I needed to hear to stop talking to her. So I pretty much say okay well i hope you have a great rest of your trip and happy new year/xmas and if you want to be friend when u get home the ball is in your court and you can contact me..i know gave her all the power lol, dumb again. So we don't talk up until new years i'm out with the boys shit faced when she send me a message saying happy new year and i hope your having a good day. My phone dies which is actually good or I probably would have called her and did something stupid. So I make out with a couple chicks that night and feel a bit better. Join tinder and am feeling a bit better but i'm obviously still crushed. I read the : How to text your ex back" and was thinking of doing this but not too sure yet.

    She gets home on January 8th and I have two sides telling me what to do. The first one says this dumb bitch, I waited for 1.5 years and she had the selfishness to end things two weeks before she comes home. Doesn't she realize she has been in a different world for 1.5 years and things will change drastically when she gets home.....And I want to fuck girls and go so Hard as a motherfucker chasing pussy that I will never think of this girl again. Than the other side of me says you need to chill, your hurt and emotional. Give it time and then come back as friends as i don't want to throw away 10 years of life with someone. Should I start texting her some across the bow text to start winning her back because I'm sure she will feel different when we actually see each other. Or do I say fuck you i'm taking my time away from you and not even saying have a safe flight home or welcome home like I already said I would before. I still feel hurt but I also do missing just talking to her as my friend.............. ......we were best friends for ten fucking years. Any advise that's actually helpful is appreciated. From one man to another I thank you.

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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    The ***EXTREME*** at the beginning makes me not want to read it...

    Why are your problems more "extreme" than anyone else's?

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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    The ***EXTREME*** at the beginning makes me not want to read it...

    Why are your problems more "extreme" than anyone else's?
    Fair enough. I never said it was.......Its an extreme issue for me which I thought was quite clear. If you some advice great, if not thanks.

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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    Get over it and move on!

    Theres ms a lot more going on here than you're telling us, like how you acted during those times and the fact that you haven't seen her in a year and a half, leads me to believe that you weren't that interested in her and her vice versa.

    Just let it go! Nothing you say or do will make you feel better or fix the situation immediately. Read through some of the posts on here and you will see Pattern emerging on how to act around woman, no matter what they do to you, so make the search function your best friend

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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    Quote Originally Posted by Slickwilly View Post
    Get over it and move on!

    Theres ms a lot more going on here than you're telling us, like how you acted during those times and the fact that you haven't seen her in a year and a half, leads me to believe that you weren't that interested in her and her vice versa.

    Just let it go! Nothing you say or do will make you feel better or fix the situation immediately. Read through some of the posts on here and you will see Pattern emerging on how to act around woman, no matter what they do to you, so make the search function your best friend
    Thanks for the comments man, just not sure how its very helpeful. What do you mean there is more to the story? Plain as day; It was a big deal when she left and we were both devastated but planned on making it work.....we were together for the 7 years previously. We spoke everyday via Watsaap while she away and quite a bit on Skype. No joke, we didn't have 1 fight the entire time she was away and I never visited because I didn't think it was an issue. I also am starting my own business and couldn't manage to visit financially, while also giving family money. That being said I would have gone if I knew this would happen. I'm a very driven and motivated person and understand right now My emotions are all over the fucking place but to say move on after a 10 year relationship with some stupid " your not telling us something" Bullshit comment is hilarious. I'm looking for some actually advice with some substance here.....with actual reasoning

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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    To mention; When I say I didn't visit because I didn't think it was an issue by no means I didn't care about her, she was on my mind all day and I clearly stated that through all my texts to her.

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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoro View Post
    To mention; When I say I didn't visit because I didn't think it was an issue by no means I didn't care about her, she was on my mind all day and I clearly stated that through all my texts to her.
    One-itis....

    Get over it...

    She's probably not that hot in the first place....

    And probably not the daughter of a billionaire, either...

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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    One-itis....

    Get over it...

    She's probably not that hot in the first place....

    And probably not the daughter of a billionaire, either...
    LOL, family has money not that it matters. And one-itis still isn't advice...yea I'm choked about the situation and yah I also know that I will eventually get over it. Still looking for some advice on how to handle it from someone with experience is appreciated. If you have no real advice besides throwing judgment please move along.

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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoro View Post
    LOL, family has money not that it matters. And one-itis still isn't advice...yea I'm choked about the situation and yah I also know that I will eventually get over it. Still looking for some advice on how to handle it from someone with experience is appreciated. If you have no real advice besides throwing judgment please move along.
    I'm still thinking about how I messed things up with the daughter of a billionaire and I would contact her right now if it would not land me in jail for harassment. So I really don't know. And what sucks is that I can see every way that I messed it up.....

    From now on, I could meet the hottest girl in the world and if she's not inheriting $20 million, it's like a disappointment.

    One time she even told me "take care of this pussy and you'll get everything,".....

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    Zoro is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: *******EXTREME****** Advice on 10 Year Relationship Ending

    Bro who gives a fuck about the money. Your a man go find your own and don't expect your girl to hold your hand and give you money.


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