If you are constantly thinking about someone..When they are not around. Would cause you to lose focus.
You are in their frame..And every time you meet up..you will be in their frame.They will be the dominant one.And have all of the control. I think this is an important part.I never seen mention before. Why some get stuck on stupid. Like I did.
You must build yourself up..To the man you would like to be..and then you will know you're worth. And will not have much time to think..to deeply about anyone else. And you will have a strong frame.and will act accordingly.