I met the best girl, became good friends and decided we would be good roommates.
Then, we got involved a week later and fell for each other in a month. Sex all the time and spent way too much time together but shared every thought in our mind and were always on the same page. I was too available and revealed I had insecurities. I became weak and needy, she became distant, in the next month, said she wanted to be friends. We were still really good friends, being intimate and had great plans to make music and both wanted to live in the city and exploit it where we liked to hang out.
We had lots of plans for when we lived together, but I couldn't bear the thought of her not being mine and me being a secret to her friends.
Now it’s time to move in and I could not do it. She is pissed. Also, her ex wants her back,I think they might be talking and he is in military right now so she is probably thinking of him.
He gets back in 2 months.
We clicked so well it was crazy and I messed it up.
I would really like to know the best strategy to win her over.
I know it takes a confident man with a life to show I have confidence, I was needy and clingy.
I will go on and do things as to get over her but it’s hard to let go.
She was showing me value.. I have insecurities and I wanted her to be my girlfriend so
I pressured that. It’s been a long time since I’ve cared about someone this strong
so I lost my emotional self control. I think she felt her freedom threatened.
I made a few stupid comments about things she did etc. Just a few though,
but they came out of frustration of wanting a commitment from her and being a secret.
I didn’t like acting like I was in a relationship and not having it. but.. it wasn’t just that..
It was mostly that I was a secret and i guess that became more and more,
the more she backed away. I didn't like being a secret, but i know that it was all my fault. If I didn’t make those mistakes, maybe she would have made me more known.
I also, know that she was being cautious, she just got out of a relationship and a few people might have told her to slow down. If I would have don’t things right, I could have had her.
I know that I can overcome it though. If I had another chance. I’ve learned allot from the experience and it sux it might be too late
She is a very popular girl with lots of friends and a VERY
strong person so I think she will move on and not skip a beat.
I just want to know if there is anything i can do to help my cause??
The only thing I have learned to get her back is to live my purpose
and post it on facebook to show do have a life and learn some more emotional self control.
To follow the steps to possibly get her back on this site.
I feel like if I would have gotten my together and moved in with her i could have proved i could handle her,
that she would have included me totally in her life and been exclusive.
I’m insecure and I couldn’t handle it. I really think could have had her if i moved with her and handled it.
Though in the beginning I wasn't a secret. She backed away when I wasn't handling things well.
Being immature and needy. , I am trying to move on.
Last time we spoke I gave her flowers and said I love u. She had told me she wanted to tell me that many times and finally told me once a few days before. I gave her a letter saying..
"I need a break from what we are doing. I am not ok with just being friends without the idea of becoming more. I hope you understand. I also want to apologize for having so many immature reactions the last couple of months. I haven't cared for someone this strongly in a while. Think about it and get back to in a few days" that was Monday jan25. Haven't heard from her.
QUESTION..if I hear from her.. Should I try to address my mistakes. Or what should I say to get her to understand I couldn't move with her.. Etc.. All input would be appreciated thanks..
We have so much in common it’s insane as far as goals and art and adventure…
Did I not build enough attraction to win her back now? Can i win her over?
If I believe I could handle it, should I try to move in with her and keep my distance, I feel that might be my only chance..?