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    Default Help me figure out the right route to take

    This starts pretty average. After almost a yr with this girl I start getting too complacent and routine. We stop doing as much exciting things I def started being more beta etc. she started getting more distant and we stopped having as much sex. She was in a shitty work situation so I attributed it to that.
    Anyway wish I had seen the signs and started steering our relationship back to more fun and picking back up my game.
    Anyway one of her best friends from home commits suicide. My gf is stil young (20) and hasn't dealt with anything this traumatic and obviously is completely fucked up by this. Anyway I try and be there for her as much as I can. She's a lot more distant understandably and is gone a lot that week. When she gets back she says we need to talk. Knew what was about to happen and went in to take it like a man. Anyway she insisted it was because she felt like she can't be a good girlfriend considering circumstances and I shouldn't have to deal with the distance etc. I told her I didn't care I just wanted to get her through this but basically she just wanted space no matter what. she said she doesnt want to lose me either so we decided to just be on a break. I told her I would still be there for her.
    So I go into nc. She texts me 2 days after not talking just like hey hope you have had a good day" and I wasn't a dick but def a little cold. Waited quite a while to text back and was just like thanks stef you too. She sent a few more and I kept it Pretty business like. I didn't respond to the last one it was pretty late and kinda neutral so I didn't really leave her hanging just didn't say goodnight like we usually do.
    Anyway that was a week or so ago and we haven't spoken. If it wasn't for what she's going through I would have no prob just getting on with it and no question that it would be the right move. But she's going through such a hard time am I abandoning her or being a dick? I've been going out with my friends and those snapchat stories prob kinda bum her out. Should I text her to make sure she's all good or stay cold? I honestly don't know what the right move is in this situation.

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    Default Re: Help me figure out the right route to take

    you are on her friend list buddy, i dont see why you txt her "goodnight as usually" guess to who you say goodnight as usually? -friends.
    i mean using that much social networks, that show you have too much free time.
    you are just friendzoned if you dont know how to get out of friendzone, than dont do that.

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    Default Re: Help me figure out the right route to take

    Its obviously a delicate situation and its very hard to comment on but if it were me I would just send her a text saying that youre here for her whatever she needs and then go into no contact. It honestly feels like she just needs space for a while so give it to her. If she contacts you reply and if you have to be a friend then do it, she needs friends now and its important to show you care. If you have your confidence I'm sure she'll soon see you're meant to be and come back. I wish you well

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    Default Re: Help me figure out the right route to take

    Mate, You need to discuss each others situation, See what she wants, what you want etc.

    But First say

    "Hey Steff, I know you wanted space to deal with what happened and I've tried to respect that by giving you a week which I have used to catch up with friends and family, I understand that you may of seen me having fun which was super selfish of me because of what you are going through, for that i appolagise. But we have been together for a year now and I cant help but wonder how you are going?, What have you been up to? Would you mind if I called you to catch up? "

    If she says ˙es"

    Say:

    "Hey Steff, I know you are going through a lot right now and that's why I have retreated and have used the time to catch up with friends and family, we did say we were on a break, not broken up. Obviously you needed space but its been a week and although i'm being selfish about what I want to know rather then your situation i'm starting to question our situation from your perspective. So I just want to ask you, What do you want out of us? Are we still together?/on break?/Broken up?"
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Help me figure out the right route to take

    Well to tell you sincerely i have very good results when i am cold with womens .If i am too protectful seems that they think i am disperate or they are not atracted
    Get your ex back right now .You deserve to be happy

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    Default Re: Help me figure out the right route to take

    There is a fine line when going cold/NC on a girl, Between her desperation and her learning to live without you.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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