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    Default Confessed to long term friend, got LJBF. Can I turn it around? (rAFC here)

    Hi there,

    Here is my story: There is a HB7 who I have been known for 10 years, she lives a thousand miles away, so I never considered gaming her. I was happily friendzoned until she recently moved to my place for two months. Watching movies together, cuddling, drinking, talking about other girls, she gave me some ioi's, like let me touch her bum just to see if it fits into my hand... so I slowly started to think about her differently, then I could not control it and developed very strong feelings towards her. She got a job offer back in her home town, so she decided to move back. Since I recently lost my sister, I got so confused I did not want to loose her too. I went full loser, and confessed her that I have feelings for her, but want to save our friendship too. I know. I doulbe-friendzoned myself. This is not the only mistake I made, bare with me. As I stated before, when she moved in, I did not consider her as someone I should hit on. I had a casual over a couple of times, went really wild with her, although she (my friend) was in the next room. Then, when I gave her a lift to the airport, she showed IOI's again, so I went for the kiss. Nice romantic one, no tongue, not too long.
    Then after she went back, I was confused as f, and asked her in an email if she felt something too or it was just me. She replied: "I always thought about you as a friend". Later on I posted a very emo stuff on a social media site, about my grief loosing my sister. She sent me a message that she "would give me a hug right now". I tried to let things settle a bit, then could not resist to show my affection by sending her a love quote. She replied: "it's nice". Then, to save any dignity left, I sent: "I understand you. I realised that we won't have a more intimate connection in this life. I will not bother you with this any more."

    To sum up: I sucked, screwed up, got oneitis, am hurt, dying inside.
    And the worst of all, I am here to work out a better strategy. I am exercising, trying to improve myself, will sarging to improve my game, but only because I want her. I still believe that it can be done. Maybe with a couple of moths of ignoring her, or acting like nothing happened, or... I don't know, but I am here for your help. Yes, as I stated above; I am aware that I went beta, and she is probably not attracted to me now. But wouldn't it be rewarding tackling this impossible mission? Wouldn't it be a true testament of the fact that the Game works?

    I appreciate your honest and helpful advice.

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    Default Re: Confessed to long term friend, got LJBF. Can I turn it around? (rAFC he

    Sorry for your lost about your sister, i know how it feels to lose someone.

    First confess someone your feelings never, i repeat again NEVER. Do it with your actions, game is there for it. U can use subcom but so it fucking never direct again. If twmperature high enough u can say even i want to fuck you to her face, she will love it. But as first step, even if she accepts, having sex with her can take centrues, like your situation.

    My advice here, she is gone right. Keep her as friend. Game on other girls.

    But if you say i want to have LTR then say her you need to time to think about our relationship. Cut the all contact. Ignore here for month or 2. Call her again afterwards, say that you founs someone really nice and talk about her. Acg normal and make arrangement for dinner or somethin. Try to kclose her. If you can do it right. Chick is yours.

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    Default Re: Confessed to long term friend, got LJBF. Can I turn it around? (rAFC he

    Thank you for your condolences and for your advice, Dicemaster.
    I expected some rant about the way I handled the situation, but your words are kind and helpful.
    I will muscle up a bit for a couple of months, avoid all contact, ignore her, then set up a meeting, as you suggested.

    Again, great advice.

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    Default Re: Confessed to long term friend, got LJBF. Can I turn it around? (rAFC he

    Hi,

    Just to get this clear: when we say ignoring her may flip this situation around, do we mean ignoring her completely?
    She just sent me a supporting message, as she knows I'll have an important, career-changing event coming up. Something like 'Go, get them!'.
    What should be my next step?

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    Default Re: Confessed to long term friend, got LJBF. Can I turn it around? (rAFC he

    Well i think be yourself ,its good that you make your intentions to her .We should accept that girls are dificult and with hard you can understand them .Also be very careful how you think what you say and how you act etc .And be patient with her
    Get your ex back right now .You deserve to be happy

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    Default Re: Confessed to long term friend, got LJBF. Can I turn it around? (rAFC he

    Thank you handheart. Great advice, but to tell you the truth, it is extremeley difficult "to be myself" when I am utterly confused with my feelings, trying to cope with rejection and obsession. What I would do is tell her that OK we missed our chances at this time, but this is not the end of the road; we will be together - resistance is futile I tend to accept that my value is zero in her eyes right now, and it's almost impossible to re-open the window of opportunity which I missed big time, but hey, there are some tools I can use: persistance, patient, improving my inner game, getting over my grief, work out, voodoo, law of attraction, and of course mastering pick up art.

    By the way, I went out the other night and I was on the top of my game: had fun, flirted with a bunch of girls except with the target who eventually invited me to her place. And just then I screwed up I wasn't there mentally, my routine worked great, but right before fclose I went AFC. I don't know why this freakish urge to want women to understand me - probably trying to fill the void my sister left in my heart. And now, here we are: a PUA with heart; worst combination ever It's like having a knife with butter, but nothing to smear.

    Anyway, I'll call my friend-target to tell her my "resisance is futile" theory - I cannot make a bigger fool of myself and have nothing to loose. At least, I'll be myself.

    I truly appreciate your comments, it's great be a part of this community.


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