First, English is not my first language, so sorry in advance.
I will try to explain what happened and I really need some advice. About 8 months ago, i got a job offer from a company and took it. She was working at the same company. I knew her from before, but didn't really pay any attention to her back then. I was trying to date other girls at the moment, she was not even a dot on my radar. We started to hang out, and although i told her from the start I would fuck her if given the chance, I didnít push too hard because we were working together, and I thought you don't shit were you eat. Also she had a boyfriend back then, for about 3 years.
About 5 months ago, she tried to go out with a colleague, that didnít pan out, and her boyfriend find out and dump her. She called me, and came to me for comfort I guess. (not to the other guy), and ask me if I like her. ("I know you want to fuck me, but do you like me? I need to know", I said yes, maybe, jokingly, and she said if I like her, she will leave. So I said NO....yeah, I know, big mistake.) That night, she slept with me, I tried to fuck her, or kiss her, she didnít let me. (Then is when I started to have feelings for her. (In the meantime, I was gaming other girls)
Fast forward, at the beginning of January I started to crawl my way up from friend zone (I knew I was in it, don't worry). And she was responding well. In February, I asked her out, and meet with some friends of mine (who knew I liked her). We both got drunk, got in an argument, I left angry, and she got drunk and fucked my bud. (I found out from her the day after, she told me that my friend was the first guy after her ex she really liked.) I let my feelings out, and told her that I like her, and I didnít want her to see me ever. My friend (for 10 fucking years) backed off (remorse, he told me he didnít knew I liked her, (after 2 weeks), and didnít push to see her again.
After one week of Freeze Out, I was playing poker, and she called me through a common friend, came to see me, and wanted to chat. I took her to my home, we started to drink, got drunk, and tried again to fuck her. She didnít let me again, but I did finger her and I did a cunnilingus to her. (no sex....)
Fast forward to this week, my friend (although she likes her to, backed off) refused to see her, and I did spend a lot of time with her. On Monday again I tried to have sex with her, again she only let me finger her and lick her. (she was wet as hell, but again didn't want to fuck with me (she considers me at fault because my friend didn't want to see her again, i guess this is the reason I didnít fuck her yet). On Thursday, she come to visit me, and we got in a fight, she yelled at me and accused me I was the reason she was not happy and i started to laugh, I told her I wanted to kiss her. She left, and I started a no contact. (before we were speaking daily).
Last night she sends me this message on Facebook: "Hey, Sorry for this situation. I want to apologize if I threw some harsh words that evening. No matter how nervous I was, I was to angry. I felt mocked and had come to you to ask for my rights, explanations and apologies. And rest assured that there'll be nothing between me and your friend because of the drama caused. So look on the bright side, you could not have me, your friend could not have me either. You won, but know that it hurts. I'm trying to put my life in order and I try to get out of this shock and drama. I hope after a few months you will get over me and then we can go out for a beer. Until then see what you do with your life, if you take a job or you start traveling, be wise in your decisions. Do not be mad at your friend, you'll finally be reconciled after a while. Please understand that you could not make me happy anyway. You were a little petty and selfish because you didnít let me try to be happy with someone else and you saw your own interest. Even know that you knew how to fight for what you want, and that is admirable in a strange way. Take care of yourself, do not be under the line, take time to figure things out. Even if we had a fight and no longer communicate, know that I worry for you, hope you do not put yourself in trouble. I will always help if you need something, in spite of everything that happened. Take care" I didn't answer that text.
At the moment I can date other girls, but I still want her. (oneitis i know) Should I answer that text, or go full no contact until she tries harder. (Yes, move on, bla bla). I really need advice, I tried so hard to get out of friend zone, I finally managed to do that (and my friend fucked all up).
Thanks in advance