That's why I told you that you don't have the capacity to draw this girl back in. You're still putting her on a pedestal, thinking about everything to make it right. I tried to make you see this is precisely the mistake you're doing, but you're still too blind to realize it.
It's understandable that you manipulated Hands to help you by driving the conversation back to your agenda, however that's not good for you and Hands should realize this, because he's not really helping you. He may give you all the best tips, but you're listening to only what you want, not what you need.
Bear in mind that your problem isn't really what you say. It's about your inner game and you won't be able to fix it in 2 or 3 weeks, neither by talking with one particular girl. You'll fuck up immensely and that's precisely what will make you learn. But to achieve this you have to understand that you will fuck up again with this girl. But you don't.
Oneitis is a fucked up shit.