Re: Extra Stubborn Ex
I've had long distance girlfriends too (as well as stubborn ones) and it just doesn't work, as they seem incapable of appreciating the time and effort required to go and see them.
In my case I've found its not worth the effort, so if She lives more that a few miles away then I'm not interested however hot She is, unless She is willing to come and see me sometimes.
As for Stubborn Girlfriends please don't get me started, as they are the worst ones of all.
I used to know this older woman, who I really liked 'we got on great' She was only a 6 and I'd known her for years and in all that time I never screwed her, because She very simply wasn't hot enough for a Chauvanist Pig like me Lol.
But looking on the plus side, She did have a great personality, which went on to make the the ideal dinner companion and even better we always used to split the Bill between us, which meant that we could go to some very nice Restaurants.
Then one day I upset her, by giving her best friend a lift and She never forgave me!
All the going out together stopped and She wouldn't even speak to me, as She had 'Queen Bee' Syndrome and mistakenly thought that She could not be replaced.
Even though I appolologised (though I don't really know for what) She kept this Stupid Stubborness up for TWO YEARS!
Although that didn't stop me for dating other girls.
And so I took some photo's of places that we used to go but with other girls in the pictures instead of her.
As well as pictures of other Girls enjoying a great day out in her favourite Car that I own.
Then when I showed them too her, as part of a conversation we were having, She just broke down and cried her friggin eyes out 'serves her rights!'
That was the moment it dawned on her, that She was not as irreplacable as She thought (What took her so long!)
At which point She went all girly and appologised to me.
Now we are back on very good terms and She's the one I go on dinner dates with and now acts as my 'Wing Woman' when I chat up other girls.
I'm not suggesting you do the same but you might consider appologising (even though you've done nothing wrong in my book) as simply a ploy to give you 'The Moral High Ground'
She cannot expect you to do any more than that, especially if you write her a note and send her a dozen Red Roses.
Now while I know that some may look at this as some sort of Climb down, that you should not entertain and may even advise you to forget about her.
If you really want her back, sometimes you have to do this kind of Shit, as it doesn't matter how you get there, as long as you get what you want.
Then after you've sent the note with the Roses, cease all contact with her until She contacts you, as I'm sure that She will (eventually!)
At least She will know that you've tried and can't do anymore (So you've really put the Ball in her Court)
Then when you get back together, as I'm sure you eventually will.
Wipe the slate clean, talk it over and establish some reasonable rules for long distance dating, ie She must be accepting that She must also make an effort to come and see you.
If She isn't Cool with that, then move on and forget her, or you will only make your life a misery.
The Power in a Relationship always goes to the one who cares the least