First off let me say a few things about myself. I'm 33 and I own two businesses: a medical marijuana delivery service and a rare/cactus and succulent website as well. I'm rather familiar with a lot of the PUA techniques and have watched many videos. My problem seems to be that I can't keep the girl. I recently had one of my longest relationships since my babies' (she's 7 now) Mom. This recent relationship lasted a solid 5 months but I kind of felt like I was fighting for her the last month or so.
Her name is Kate, she's a nurse and comes from kind of wealthy family. Despite that she is very down to earth, kind, a good listener and an all-around amazing person to be around. She's 28 years old.
In the beginning it was amazing. We pretty much started having sex without a condom right away. She would commonly say things to me during sex like "I love my baby so much, I love it when you cum inside me" etc. We talked about how our children would look, she even mentioned that if she did get pregant that she'd want to name it Tyler (my name) regardless of gender. She took me by this ritzy church that is part of her parents' exclusive country club and told me "This is where we're going to get married". It was very clear that both of us wanted a child. She even mentioned that she's not getting any younger and would love to have 2 kids.
About a month ago she got pregnant and immediately started acting way differently, particularly after going on a hiatus from smoking weed; started acting more cold, distant, irritable. She pretty much freaked out and told me that she didn't want to have the baby. At first I was very upset about this but she told me right off the bat that she still wanted the relationship but just "wasn't ready" to have a kid yet. So I was supportive and went to the appointments with her and everything. During the Ultrasound they also found what they believe to be an endometrioma (basically like a big cyst, kind of, look it up if curious) and so there was a bit of speculation to it possibly being malignant cancer.
A week ago she broke up with me. She said that she felt like I'm more in love with her than she is with me and that she just doesn't see a long term future with us. It was the most sudden change I've ever seen in a girl, ever. I've had lots of girlfriends in my 33 years, even dated in different states when I was in the Navy. I've never seen a girl make such a 180 so quickly. I don't know whether to say it's just the pregnancy hormones.
I spoke to her just yesterday and she gave me an update on her recent Dr's visit. It turns out that her ovaries are going to be fine and so she has for sure decided to abort the baby. She said that she still loves me, still cares for me, but stood by her guns that she doesn't see a long term future with us. She definitely feels like time is running out for her even though she's only 28, I feel the same way sometimes.
I really want this girl back. We connect on so many different levels, she's most definitely the most intelligent girl I've ever been with.
I've read all of the guides that were recommended basically saying grow the fuck up, get over it, etc but this time I really don't want to. She even said to me at one point during the relationship that "no one has ever fought for me before" and mentioned that it would be nice. Her past boyfriends seem like total jerks. She refers to one of them as having Asbergers and another just kind of used her it seems like.