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Thread: Your thoughts about my lying long term girlfriend.

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    Default Your thoughts about my lying long term girlfriend.

    I know is a wall of text but please bear with me.

    So. I have been in a relationship with this girl for 2.5 years, 3 days ago, we had a small argument because she pointed how my family doesn't like her anymore, and she blames me because I told them how at the last minute she didn't want to attend an important family celebration months ago, and she instead chose to go to a dance class that day.

    At the time, I pointed her out several times that not going was going to be a problem yet she didn't pay attention to me, things escalated and I almost break up with her for her disrespectful in public to me (screaming at me and pushing me aside as if I was assaulting her) I cut all contact for 5 days, later she contacted me and wanted to mend things.

    Still now she says that I should have made an excuse for her instead of telling the truth. So, I told her that she should take responsibility for her actions, dismissed the argument and left her home she showed what I supposedly a good mood, later that night I called her and she answered me in a disrespectful manner. So, I said good night and leave it at that.

    The next day I call her in the morning to see if she hadn't had any problems getting to her college room (I called from my landline, something I never do but my cellphone was without battery) she answers normally and as soon as she realizes is me turns sour and says "I attending you later" and drops the phone without cutting the call. I hang up and get really angry since I greeted her lovingly.

    Like an hour later she starts calling I don't answer, she sends a text mocking me for not answering and saying that I shouldn't call her if I'm not going to answer her. I don't call her or texts her for that day and the next, she called me several times and went from angry to sentimental on several text I didn't answer saying things "about how I'm not happy with her anymore and she doesn't want to feel this way."

    Later at night (of day 2) I answer a Skype call from her, I acted chill, when she starts complaining I explain that I didn't wanted to be around her disrespectful behavior and that I had been busy at work that's why I didn't answer her. She calms down when I change the subject and we end up the call in a nice mood.

    Today (day 3) she calls me in the morning and we chat and joke a bit, she says she loves me and I say I do too. Later in the morning I tried to call her to her phone and find out by one of her girlfriends that she lost her phone (a gift from me) on a bus yesterday, and how they joked that she always has her head in the clouds. So, I texted her on Skype asking her what happened to her phone, she texted me saying that "she was assaulted on the street by two men with a knife" She was lying! Still I ask her why she didn't told me anything of it last night when we had talk for about an hour and I had asked her about her day at the University she responded that "she wanted to tell me yesterday but she was angry because I wasn't there for her when she needed me" I couldn't believe how blatantly was she lying to me and how clearly she was trying to emotionally blackmail me.

    Her friend who had showed me her texts was still around and when I talk to her again she asks me not to tell my girlfriend that we had talked since she just asked her not to tell me anything about how she lost her phone. I don't believe her and she shows me her text. WTF!

    So I call her to her dorm and she tells me the same story, I ask her for details to make a police complaint, she messes up but tries to cover it, she noticed that I didn't buy it, and asked me if I didn't believe her, I said that I don't and that I don't understand why she is trying to make something up. She starts crying on the phone and says she can't believe I don't trust her! and says that everything is over and hangs up. Now she text me saying “I can’t stay like this, you ignore me for a whole day, and now I’m a liar, ok I get it, thanks for clearing things up today, love doesn’t exist, I advise you to find a better person than me since I can’t make you happy in our relationship, godspeed I wish you the best.” I haven’t answer her yet.

    Some history: She’s a 24yo, with sort of tomboyish attitude overall but with a very small frame 7/10, she’s a little bit above average smart and likes anime and videogames. She said she was a virgin and didn’t wanted to have sex until 5 months of the relationship, later I find out she used to take it up her ass (she herself spilled the beans), One day I overhear her telling her mom a her sisters that she owns me completely (I tried to step up my game after that), I catch her one day when she said she was going to stay at her dorm sleeping and she went to party with her well known whore friends (I don’t have problems she partying if I’m not around the city but she still lied probably because I disapprove of those specific friends). She used to lie a lot for little things, I called her on her bullshit and she fixed it or probably got better at it don’t know anymore. Her sister is a big whore and they live together. I used support half of her financial stuff in the university until the big fight months ago, and my family used to support her too in other things, last month things got better and I started supporting her just a bit. Overall I try to make her happy and give her good sex, she orgasms twice most of the time.

    What should I do, what should I answer to her text, she’s probably waiting for me to break and ask her to forgive me which I don’t plan on doing it. What’s your advice in this situation I’m in.

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    Default Re: Your thoughts about my lying long term girlfriend.

    I read it.

    You GF is fucking crazy. I have face women like your GF and they are difficult to manage, not gonna lie man. She is volatile and that is something you shouldnt have to deal. Okay first of all, are you sure you want to save the relationship? If you want to stay with her, make sure her toxic behaviour is not gonna come back. Talk with her about it, YOU put the rules.

    What to reply? "Let talk tomorrow face to face".

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    Default Re: Your thoughts about my lying long term girlfriend.

    Yea I agree. Very volatile. Sounds entertaining, but it's not good for long term. I know it's not what you want to hear, but count your blessings and move on. I'm typically one that likes to try and encourage saving the relationship, but she's too busy trying to be in charge of the relationship and resorts to desperate tactics. What she doesn't realize is that if you do finally submit to her then she will eventually lose attraction anyways and leave. So I don't see a win situation here for you. She has got a lot of growing up to do and you can't force her to. That is her own journey. So understand if you continue to try and work things out that this is who she is and you have to accept that.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Your thoughts about my lying long term girlfriend.

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    I'm typically one that likes to try and encourage saving the relationship, but she's too busy trying to be in charge of the relationship and resorts to desperate tactics. What she doesn't realize is that if you do finally submit to her then she will eventually lose attraction anyways and leave. So I don't see a win situation here for you.
    Totally agree with this. I would say, if he wants to go back to the relation, he should be the one who puts the rules. Otherwise... game over. The actitude of doing something wrong and pretend to be right is childish, toxic and, honestly, not worth the cause.

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    She has got a lot of growing up to do and you can't force her to. That is her own journey. So understand if you continue to try and work things out that this is who she is and you have to accept that.
    Also I wanted to comment this. She will grow up alone, if you both dont continue with your relationship. If you continue make sure she doesn't win the argument by free or you are done and the future of the relationship is done.

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    Default Re: Your thoughts about my lying long term girlfriend.

    Hello guys, thanks for your answers.

    I haven't contacted her since february 5 the day I received her last sms, today I decided to delete her from facebook and instagram, also deleted her number and her relatives from my phone. I wrote her number down and put it away inside a box with the few gifts I received from her (most were cheap shit).

    I'm ready to move on, can't believe I was seriously thinking to settle down with this woman.


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