What should I do to get her back?

Hi people,

I'm sorry to ask this,but I found myself in a dire situation from which I think you're the only one capable of helping me,I really need your advice. Btw, I got here through a PUA friend's recommendation.

Now on to my problem:

2 weeks ago my girlfriend of nearly 3 years broke up with me.

Her reasoning was that she fell out of love with me and was interested in another guy.

It's important that you know, that it is/was a long-distance relationship between her and me.

Now she is together with that guy, whom she met at a part-time job.

I didn't contact her for a while and we got to talk today,
I told her the break-up was probably for the best (obvious lie on my part), which she agreed upon, and we talked abit about how I was too jealous at all times
and that this made our relationship so much harder and annoying for her.

She told me that she is trying to live a "live your life"-attitude and wants to see where if her newfound relationship with that other guy will last long or not. As I type, she's in a bar with him meeting his friends.

While we talked (over an Instant Messenger btw) I mentioned that I would be in town the coming week or the one after and if she wanted to meet up to do sth. maybe go to a disco perhaps. She readily agreed, though also said, that we would have to take it slow at first, maybe go drink a cup of coffee and see where it'll go or take us, not too fast, she also mentioned that it could be possibly troubling because of us being exes and all.

I think that will be my last or at least most important chance to Get Her Back.


There are several problems:

1. She usually works all day, even on Saturday, so there's not much room for plans time-wise. That's why I think something like the disco would be best.

2. I could meet her at that work place, it's in public, but her current boyfriend works there as well.

3. I only have a few days to stay in that city she lives in because otherwise it would be too hard on my budget. Probably something like Thursday-Monday.

Now there's a thing that may or may not work to my advantage:

I'll live at a friend's during that time span, "unfortunately" that friends house is getting renovated during that time, so I could casually mention my lack of accomodation to my ex-girlfriend and hope that she will offer me to stay at her place instead.



So, on to my already made preparations.

1. I'm getting a whole new set of clothes just for that time span. For that fresh look.

2. Changing glasses for contact lenses. For that fresh look.

3. Making my hair. For that fresh look.

4. Maybe practice some moves for that dancefloor, if we will ever hit it, because I wasn't exactly famous for liking dancing.

5. I'm working out and seeing some progress, though maybe not that noticable, because I already was a sporty type.

6. I'm more confident than before though still scared of her possible disinterest towards me.


What should I do, I need some form of guidance from you,

how I should behave and where should I go, what should I do exactly,

a detailed plan if possible.


I know, this is much to ask off you, but you really are my only hope left.

I sincerely thank you, for even reading this far in.

It's highly possible that I forgot some crucial information,

I am of course happy to give any information you need, if you ask or need.

Sincerely ,

kyogun from Germany

Its over, move on.

Women dont think LOGICALLY. They think EMOTIONALLY.

If she told you she has fallen out of love with you, theres nothing you can do but not act like a crushed 12year old. Leave on good terms, leave like a MAN.

LAST attempt is a Freeze Out, BUT I daresay after the freezeout period she will never contact you. And if she does contact you, it will only be to stroke her ego for male attention.

Best advice. Take some time, do things that you love and forget about her

2 weeks ago your gf broke up with you because she fell out of love and was interested in another guy.... chances are that she has been flirting with this guy before the break up maybe a month or more, move on bro, DO NOT, I litterally mean DO NOT beg her, buy her things, ask for forgiveness, tell her that you'll change for her...none of that needy stuff,she'll come back if things go wrong

Would you take her back tho V?

I have too much respect for myself to get back with someone like that.

"it's easier to start a new relationship than it is to salvage a broken one"

well learninglegend, I wouldnt take her back and start a serious relationship but I would make her a friend with benefits

Yes, this might seem like a horrible mistake to you guys,
but I'd still take her back.

I know for a fact that she uses that guy as rebound
and only knew him for like a week before the breakup.
Also she is jealous of me already dating other women.

What I've done so far is show her that I'm quite over it,
what with dating other women and stuff and when I'm meeting her I'm gonna do exactly the same. Show her what she's missing out on but keeping up a platonic vibe.

I appreciate all your inputs, keep it coming if there's any more.

If you do go to the disco. I would just flirt with other females there. She will probably get jealous but hey your broken up so just have fun where ever you go and show her what shes missing. Highly doubt you will get back together. So make the trip about you not her.

Kyogun - I have just the thing for you. I need someone to review my new ebook: The Get Her Back Formula.

Send me an email (bill@puaforums.com) and I will send you a free copy for you to review.

Bill

Dude, forget about this girl and move on. Most of us have been through what you are going through. Women do not just break up with you. The cheat first with a new guy than break up with you if they think the new guy is going to work out. If you can sleep with her from time to time thats fine but forgot about that girl and find a new girl.

I would be willing to do that review, if its still available, that is. How would this process work?