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    danglesman Guest

    Default I dont want to share her with other men!

    Hi guys, i am stuck with a really BIG problem. The girl ive been seeing & sleeping with for the past 4 months has recently told me that we have gotten too serious & that she wants to go back to being single & having fun again. She still wants us to see each other, but just not in a relationship type way. The thing is ive fallen head over heels in love with her & the the idea of sharing her with other men is making me ill. I love the ground she walks on & she knows this, she loves me too but i love her more. Im also trying my best not to push her any further away than she already is. She has already met up with other guys but i just want her. Every day i get fresh wounds when i see her talking to guys on facebook. I know i should man up & take it on the chin, after all she is still seeing me, but i love her too much. Its so complicated, i know we are meant to be together, how can i possibly make her my own???? HELP!!!!
    Last edited by danglesman; 03-10-2011 at 01:17 PM.

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    danglesman Guest

    Default Re: I dont want to share her with ither men!

    [ADMIN: I updated the title]
    Last edited by danglesman; 03-10-2011 at 01:15 PM.

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    Default Re: I dont want to share her with other men!

    tough position. It sounds like the kind of situation where you aren't going to get good feedback from her on what is wrong; she's not likely to tell you the truth about why she isn't feeling it for you. I can say that if she wasn't really ready for a relationship to begin with, you being over the top (into her) probably put her over the top (on not wanting to be with you). Smother.

    Do you honestly have no idea what her beef is? Think deep. Maybe you're not going out and having fun like you used to. Maybe you didn't satisfy her in bed. Maybe she hasn't had enough boyfriends.

    Maybe Read Double Your Dating, or Bill Preston's "get her back," program. Which I have not bought, read, or seen (so I can't tell you whether it's good), but it seems like a something geared for your needs.

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    Default Re: I dont want to share her with other men!

    Cheers mate,

    As far as our relationship is concerned, if we had met each other 3/4 months earlier i dont think we would have a problem, bacause she was in a relationship right before me & literally went straight in to another with me. I wasnt her rebound fling or anything, we just clicked.

    She told me at the beginning that she didnt want to get serious, but i couldnt stop myself from falling for her & this is tearing me apart. She knows how much i love her & that i only have eyes for her, that much is clear, so i dont need to keep telling her that.

    Its not about knowing what her beef is, because she told me that she just didnt want to be tied down to anyone.We are like two peas in a pod, just perfect, we get on so well that i believe we are made for each other.

    Another thing i havnt mentioned yet (that i would say has played a major part in my situation) is that one of her "friends", who has never really liked me, sort of influenced her decision. Id instinctively thought this friend had something to do with it, but then she told me it was true. Apparantly this friend made her realise that she doesent want a relationship........ .but in real life this "friend" is just a devious, calculating bitch who wanted to spoil everything for us, just because she could.

    Im trying to figre out ways in which i can get this girl to want no-one else but me, without making a complete mess of it & pushing her even further away.

    Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do, or what i should be doing???

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    Default Re: I dont want to share her with other men!

    You were her rebound fling, who just happened to click. Truth is she was still thinking about the other guy a lot in the beginning stages of your relationship, and as much as we would not want to admit (either being the reboundee or rebounder), making comparisons between the two relationships is something we do. We stack up the qualities of the men/women we're with and compare. ESPECIALLY when rebounding quickly.

    Even still, she doesn't have a complete, logical checklist of what she wants in you (or another man). Much of her position is based on things she probably can't quantify. But for which she'd probably be able to summarize in a year or two from now when the relationship has long been over.

    If SHE believed 100% that you were made for each other, you wouldn't be having the problem. Her friend didn't put the thoughts into her head. The friend is just validating the thoughts your girl had on her own.
    Last edited by JonTylerDiPrince; 03-14-2011 at 01:27 PM.

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    Default Re: I dont want to share her with other men!

    wel even if it was a rebound situation, & we didnt plan to get so far ahead of ourselves.......we still have something that is going to be a shame to lose for both of us if it doesnt work out.

    & as for the friend, i still know it was done out of spite towards me.

    what would u do personally in this situation???

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    Default Re: I dont want to share her with other men!

    Ugh, well, back in the day I would probably make myself sick about it just like you are, and try to figure out ways to do what you're doing. It's heartbreaking I know. But these days I would have been more guarded to begin with, and tried not being committed to one relationship. Polyamory.

    Apparently there is a recipe for "getting her back," and you should message the owner of these forums about it (Bill Preston). He's developing the program.

    Without [whatever is in] that program, the only advice I could give you is to date other people. WHILE dating her. It would at least help take your mind of it, and maybe show her that you're desirable by others.
    Last edited by JonTylerDiPrince; 03-15-2011 at 03:16 PM. Reason: mispelligrammartypo

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    Default Re: I dont want to share her with other men!

    I honestly don't see you going anywhere with her. Do you see how easy it was for her to drop the other guys? She will do the same thing to you because that is how she is. Remember that there are plenty of other women out there. Don't stress over one person.

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    Default Re: I dont want to share her with other men!

    Wow this situation is so similar to the one I posted. I feel you bro I am in almost the exact same dilemma.

    I've taken the strategy of Freezing Her Out, but its not working like I hoped. She has not tryed contacting me and I can tell from her facebook shes been out having fun ect.

    I can say this. In my mind I am preparing myself like its over. Its done. It really really sucks but if you act like it's done, then anything that happens is just gravy.

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    Default Re: I dont want to share her with other men!

    Do the same thing to her.

    Talk to other girls and see if she get a lil jelly.

    If she doesn't get jealous or start talking to you more then she's just not that attracted to you, brotha.

    Shitty situation, but start talking to other hunnies. It'll be tough at first but it'll get easier.

    Test the grounds, mang.


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