Hi! I need advice about my ex. Like if I wanted to get her back how should I do that. I'm 25 my ex is 22.
The short story is that we spent 4 years together. During those 4 years I read lots of PUA material and I was wondering if I could do better. The funny thing is that I was never a 100% committed in this relationship, except for now when she dumped me. Now I even feel like I wanna marry her! Total mind-fark.
She was so into me and totally in love for about 3 years. But than last summer she went abroad to Holland for 6 months to study. We spoke on skype every single day. She used to mention having kids together but I always wanted to wait with that. In November she asked me on skype if I wanted to move together with her once she comes back in December, I hesitated and told her to wait a bit. Than in December she did come back home and I decided to give her a test: I didn't initiate having sex and I wanted to see how long it takes for her to want me. It took her 3 days when we were both drunk.
Than after Christmas she said she needed some time alone because I was so cold with her and she wasn't sure about this relationship. She even told me that I could have sex with anyone during this temporary period! I said ok. (it later turned out that she wanted to end this relationship forever but she didn't say, I thought it was only a break for a few weeks).
So than I gave her a total feeze-out for about 3 weeks and than I finally asked her to meet me. We had dinner at a restaurant and than went back to her place, but she didn't let me fark her. Strange. I told her that I picked up and farked 1 girl but she didn't seem to care she said that she was kissing with one guy in a club... BTW she figured out that I wanted to get back together with her even tho I was gonna cover it. I still thought that is was only a temporary break and I might have a chance. Than I didn't contact her for another month again... but now I asked her to spent the weekend together to see if we still wanna be together and how we felt for each other. I picked her up on Friday night from a bar and went to her place to sleep. She was drunk so we had sex 3 times during that night till the morning. Than once more later that morning, she came like 2-3 times. Than she sobered out and no more cuddling. I told her that I still love her and we might had a chance if we both worked on this relationship. She said that she didn't feel like working on it and wanted to be alone. But let's just be friends she said. She also said that she regreted having sex with me and it will never happen again! Also she wants to move to England at the end of this year. I left on Saturday night, we didn't spend the whole weekend together as planned. This happened just yesterday.
Additional info: I got her fb and email password now so I just logged into her email and facebook account so I partly know what she did and thinks. Here is what I know from her messages: From October-December she was meeting other guys while being abroad. She probably slept with 1. Than she asked for a " temporary break" on Christmas. In January she met a guy and asked him if they could be fark buddies but I don't know weather or not they are actually doing it. In an email she wrote to her best friend that she knows that I wanna get back together with her but she doesn't want that. She wants to be in love with someone and wants a new relationship. However she wrote that I matured a lot and I'm making a lot more money now than before. Her girlfriend replied that I might just be 'showing off' and don't be fooled.
What can I do now? How can I get her back? What should I say if she calls me for any reason? How can I make her want me? Any help and advice is really appreciated!