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    Will is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Winning over her heart

    Hey guys,

    to start off with Iím an AFC in a twisted situation and need some serious advice on this. Itís about winning over the heart of my ex girlfriend again.

    I came to this forum beacause I know PUA's have the best inside information into female psychology. All my natural instincts and the advices my friends give me are making my situation only worse.


    Iíll try to keep to the background as compact (but complete) as possible.

    Background
    In uni I started reading about seduction and PUA, developing skills and using it to hook up with girls. Then I ran into an old girlfriend (B7, but with personality HB9 and old crush), started dating, became a couple. After a year or so we travelled around the world for some months, I was on top of the world, we moved in together in the last year to finish our masters at uni.

    Last couple of months, after a LTR of which the last year living together, I started fucking up; became insecure (about education, future, finances etc) and was always doing what I thought she wanted me to do (not considering my own interests). Textbook FU 101 in a relationship.

    So one day she comes home and tells she has doubts about us. On top of that she explained that the reason she found out, was because she was developing feelings for someone else and vice versa (context: her boss for 2 days a week, older than me, successful job/organisation, financial security, own house, dog etc. her dream). After having a couple of talks (reasoning, crying together, talking into her, telling I could change) and not living together in the same house for some weeks we decided to give it another go but living separate. She told me she we had such a strong connection in the past, she still had so much love for me and really wanted it to work out ok. Only thing I couldnít ask her to quit her job, because she loves her job too much and she told the guy to keep their relationship purely professional. Still doubts, insecurity but some weeks and a couple of talks later my confidence started to build. Then she ran into him on at an informal party. The next day she told me her feelings were to strong to ignore, so we broke up.


    Current Situation
    Itís been a couple of weeks now. Since our first talk I started to realise, even more than before, that sheís so freaking special to me that I canít give up so easily. So since the breakup I started to read on seduction again and came across some material on exes; moving on, building confidence, not initiating contact, push-pull, being nice/indifferent/no emotional tampon etc. All the things I didnít do in the first place.

    So now Iím doing all of this, moving on and hoping to see results. First results I saw was when I ran into her at a friends party last night and showed I was cheerful, moving on and told her it was the right decision to break up. It totally threw her off balance, so itís a start...

    Concerns and question
    Thing is, I still cant get the situation with the other guy out of my head. I just learned, from a mutual friend, she didnít told him about the breakup yet, wishes to let it all cool off and thinking it over before deciding what to do next, mostly because she is still really upset about hurting me and my feelings. But sheíll still be seeing him more than me the next couple of weeks.

    In a couple of days we meet up to sort out and split up our stuff.
    After reading a lot of material Iíve learned that there is no quick fix for a situation like this one, but Iíd like to get an edge and some more control over the situation.

    So is there anyone out there, who finished reading this novel (sorry for the long story), and has some tips, advice and/or tricks?

    Greetings, Will

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    Default Re: Winning over her heart

    Go 'no contact' for a few months and heal from this break up. In other words give up on her and don't waste your time.

    After a while start to focus on meeting new girls.

    If she really misses you and wants you back you'll hear from her after a while! If she see's you having fun with other girls and see's that you moved on with your life she might doubt her decision...but please don't waste your time and wait for her to come back.

    The more you try to win her back again, the more it will work against you!!

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    Default Re: Winning over her heart

    Good advice.. I have that plus about 120 pages more advice on my new product here:

    The Get Her Back Formula

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    Default Re: Winning over her heart

    It is a good thing that you told her it was the right dicision to break up. This shows you are open for other peoples feelings and that you have peace with whatever (situation) you are (in)
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