05-19-2011, 12:02 PM
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| | I broke it off, and I want to win her back. Tell me next move!
K guys long time reader first time poster. Let me keep it brief.
Been seeing this chick casually for about 3-4 months. I like her a lot and she really really likes me a lot. I mean, she would text me literally every day and tell me how much she misses me and how great of a guy I am and how I am so different from other guys (thank you PUA advice. Didn't do any AFC shit on her). This didn't annoy me cause I like her too and we connected really well.
Anyway, I wanted to get more serious with her, but she always resisted. She had a good reason to resist because her last BF (who she dated for 2 years, moved in with, ect all at age 18) abused her and used to beat her and got her hooked on drugs and shit. Now she is totally clean and doesn't talk to the guy anymore, but she does have some emotional issues.
So here is what happened. We are just texting one day (last thursday) casually talking about what we are making for dinner and yada yada. All of a sudden she drops this on me (paraphrasing):
HER: So my sister is trying to set me up with this guy from her work...she wants me to go on a double date...double blind date...lol
ME: Ya what you say (NOTE: I was furious when she said this to me. I have been friends with this girls sister forever, and her sister knows I have been hanging out with her. But I didn't wanna seem too needy or nervous so I play it cool)
HER: Maybe lol...apparently he's a big nerd or something
ME: U serious? (NOTE: Now i am really mad that she is willing to see other guys. Remember we have been seeing eachother for like 4 months and I know for a fact she hasn't been sleeping with other people, even though we have been casual).
HER: About him being a nerd? Yes...
ME: No about trying to hook you up with someone. Does she not know we talk like every day?
HER: Not really we don't really talk about it and besides you and I arn't official
ME: I know that. We barely hang out (NOTE: we hung out more before)
HER: Yeah I Know
ME: I mean we have been talking for months now. It bugs me that you are open to going on dates.
HER: I'm 19 years old... =/ I'm not ready for what your ready for
ME: What are you talking about? We are not that far apart in age (NOTE: Im 24 shes 19, turning 20 in a month. Not a big deal)
HER: I think you're sweet, amazing, cute, funny, smart, and just awesome...but (exBF) broke me. I'm still recovering from all the shit he did to me.
*NOTE: we go back and forth on the exBF this for awhile.
ME: How would you feel if I was hanging out with other girls? (NOTE: This chick gets HELLA jealous when I talk about other girls. Like really bad)
HER: I woundl't blame you, you deserve a girl so much better than me (NOTE: she always says this)
ME: Maybe we should stop talking to eachother
HER: If that is what you want.
ME: Right now it is.
HER: Fine =/
OK so I thought she would come crawling back to me, but she hasn't. She has not texted/called once in the last week, and like I said she used to contact me almost every day.
One thing to note is last time I stayed the night at her place, I left my really nice Helly Hanson coat over there. The coat was a graduation gift from my mom and I really want it back. So if nothing else I wanna contact her in like a week (by this time two weeks would have gone by since the fight) and get my coat back.
Again, I do not have one-itus and I am willing to let this girl go. I really am. I do like her a lot, but she has things she needs to fix before we start hanging out again. But like I said I want this coat back.
I'm thinking I text her telling her I wanna come pick my coat up. Should I
A. Go over there, get the coat, and leave barely saying anything? This could make her want me, but again I figured she woulda contacted me.
B. Go over, apologize, and try to go inside and talk? This could backfire, make me look hella needy, and turn her off.
What would you guys do? I need help on this one.