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    Default Ex cant make up her mind

    So let me bring everyone up to speed, I recently broke up with my gf everything was going well up till I took a job where i was gone 40-50 days at a time then only home 1-2 weeks bf I was sent back out. I feel like the Isolation really took a toll on my value and attraction. As well as made me pick up so bad habits as far as being clingy and insecure. We broke up almost 3 weeks ago I read Matt Huston's two book about training your gf and EX2 (getting ur Ex back) both worked really well up to the first meet up. I built attraction and value on facebook so she would see, waited for her to make the first move in contacting me, and even made myself seem busy every time she called. It worked so well she deleted her facebook bc what i was doing kept her up at night and she was very excited and "affectionate" when we met back up for the first time since the break up. Since then we have hung out twice (3 times over the past week) but she wont commit to anything with me not even to the idea that we r just dating. She says she just wants to have fun and see what happens but over thinks everything, is setting up boundaries, and says she cant make up her mind on whether or not she wants to get back together. The past two times we have gone out we look, act, and feel like a couple but she hasnt been anywhere close to how she felt on the first meet up and feels like we are taking one step forward and two steps back. Also she dropped off much more as far as calling or texting as well. what is my play? I no longer can use fb to build attraction bc she deleted her profile and we dont share any common friends. How do I continue to build attraction, control the relationship, and get her to take down the boundaries and her indecision to commit?

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    Default Re: Ex cant make up her mind

    She might just be truly hurt man. If you two really did care about eachother, sometimes it's more than just a game at that point. I mean, you are gone 40-50 days at a time, which to her, is tough, as I'm sure it is on you.
    I know I sound like a cheesy love movie, but it may just be that it truly is just tough on her. Some girls just can't handle that, and she may not want to deal with it, regardless of how much value you put on yourself and what kind of game you play. I know it isn't any better news, but that's all I can really think of (i've been in 4 relationships that have lasted over 2 years each - 8 years of my life), and I know that sometimes there comes a point of no return (although, I think down the road I have had sex with every single one of them again after me and them have broken up. But I had just worked at it from a standpoint of making them feel that they needed me. The best they ever had kind of deal)

    But if you really want to build attraction and control the relationship, you might just have to text/call her up. It seems the only plausible way since you can't via facebook.

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    Default Re: Ex cant make up her mind

    I forgot to mention that she broke up with shortly after I left my job. Your absolutely right about the the time apart and that was a big part of the break up. So how do I rebuild attraction/interest so she will make up her mind and recommit? I do know this cant be fixed over night and will take time.


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