Ive delved into the PUA insights for quite sometime. Ive taken bits and pieces from different sources, to be able to come into my own and get what i want in life.
Im not into finding a new girl every weekend. im more the relationship type of guy.
with that said, I recently got dumped by my gf of 9 months. at the beginning I had control. I had most of the factors necessary to keep her attracted to me: Confidence , leaders of men, protector of loved ones, and the willingness to walk....but at some point, i got attached and my emotions grew strong for her, and i started becoming the AFC that i used to be. she was always a strong headed, confident, and overly proud kind of girl.
We always clashed heads, because i was trying to take the reins, but she woulndt let them go at times.
Ive always been a sensitive kind of guy, and always had trouble keeping my emotions in check, which is why i tried to change that with some help from the PUA material.
with that said...near the end...i guess i messed up pretty bad. I felt her becoming distant (for whatever reasons...too many to get into), and so i got more and more...clingy i guess you could say. Although i gave her plenty of space...she would hardly contact me of her own free will. I knew what i was doing was right, but i wasnt getting the desired result (her looking for me), which caused me to look for her, by either trying to talk to her directly, or talking to her friends, or people that knew her, to try and figure out why she was so distant....but this ended up giving over the power to her for control in the relationship. she consequently got mad, because she found out i was asking advice from her friends and family,....and she dumped me.
I took it in stride, gave it one last shot....and she still said no. The way she said it made me feel as if she hated my guts, but i hadnt done anything wrong, except try to find out what was going on and fix it. In essence, save the relationship. ( we had a few makeup/breakups prior to this)
Later on i found out from one of her friends, that the only reason she gave for her breakin with me was because I was "stupid and annoying."
While she may have found me to be that way, the only thing i ever did was care about her, and wanted to show her that, probably a bit too much...which is the reason for her calling me stupid and annoying.
since the breakup ( about a month ago), Ive had no contact with her except when she asked me for my address to send me my stuff. it took her about a week and a half to send me the stuff....and i havent heard from here since.
Is there anything that I can or cannot do, should or should not do, to try to get her back?
The reason im asking is, shes been the kind of girl that says things when shes upset, but later regrets them...however, i think, that because of her pride and stubbornness, she wont admit that she misses me and wants me back....
when we broke, I blocked her from my fb so i woudlnt be tempted to check her profile, and i initiated the no contact rule, and just waited it out...its been about a month...and still no reply. Im kinda stuck as to where to go from here....any suggestions?