After my GF broke up with me..i won her back in roughly 1.5 weeks after realizing what i was doing wrong...ill share my story in hopes it can help you
So my girlfriend broke up with me at the end of Oct. she said she was completely done and that i had alienated her away from her and that she still loved me but love wasnt enough...strong hurtful words from someone i was with for 5 years prior to this.
I was completely blindsided and SO upset. Over the next couple weeks i would always be texting her and trying to talk to her telling her that i would change for her. I told her how much i loved her and wanted to be with her and would do ANYTHING to be with her...of course none of this worked. i did this for about a month always trying to win her back...
After talking with my dad all of this changed. he described my behavior as being a "lil puppy dog following her around" harsh words, but it actually made me realize how pathetic i had become...she didnt fall in love a lil puppy dog, she did with and independent strong willed MAN (lol) anyway...after this meeting i decided to do a couple of things...
1) delete her as my facebook friend
2) DO not text her, and especially do not ask her back or tell her how much you care about her etc.
3) often times when i was trying to get over her, i would either like mentioned above ask her back, or completely snub her. so now when i would see her i would simply smile, and say hi very friendly, as my dad put it, this way you have a friendly front, so if she wants to talk to you she feels comfortable to be able to approach you without thinking youll be pissed at her or ask her back.
the overall effect this has is that it shows her your completely moving on, and that she might actually lose you...(when i was always asking her back she had no fear of losing me since i was always making myself to available)But not constantly asking her back when seeing her and not always trying to talk to her made her think she could lose me for good. and like i said before when i would see her i would do so with a friendly mentality a smile and a short hi as you pass, makes you easy for her to approach you.
Not even 2 weeks after doing this i passed her in the school hall and said a friendly "hey" she seemed really caught off guard about how freindly i was..later that day i got a text from her "hey can we talk" i def dont think she would have said that if not for the freindly hi i said to her earlier in the day, shortly after meeting up she told me how much she missed being with me...this was bc i was back to my normal self not the puppy dog chasing after her
ironically we broke up a couple months later but this was on my terms
anyway i dont know if this will help anyone but hopefully it will and GOOD LUCK--i know how hard it is to want an ex back, but i think in order to win them back, you have to essentially act like you dont want them back, its basically the same concept of some P.U, of freeze-ing out and being too needy