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    Default Bartender, trying to get her back.

    I'm 25, she is 35 and has two kids. We were together for 6 weeks. She has ADD and wasn't happy with herself, she wanted a break, I told her I don't believe in breaks so we decided to end it(this was 2 days ago).

    The day after (yesterday) I went to her bar with a female friend she met once before. I went there with the intention that I did not care if we would get back together or not. I just wanted to go there to see how she would respond, knowing that it prob would have been a mistake to go there if I my intention was to get her back.

    There was still chemistry, I made her smile every single time she came over to talk. Then my friend was ready to leave and I walked her to her car. My ex raised her voice and said "Bye *my name*". I told her I'm not leaving yet.

    Now I was sitting by myself at the bar which i wasn't really comfortable with. I told my ex that I needed to sober up a little before I would drive home. After 10 min I told her I'm taking off and we said bye in a casual way, at least I did by looking away.

    At 1am I got a text saying
    HB9: "It was good seeing u tonight, hope you got home safe. Goodnight"

    Me: "Thx. I only hit 4 cars and 1 tree along the way, so not so bad"

    HB9: Oh well that's only 50 points....better than my 80 points lol

    5 min later

    HB9: Sweetdreams *my name*

    I didnt text back, also because I was half asleep already.


    Is she testing who still cares more or is she genuine? Obviously she still cares or she wouldn't have texted me.

    My plan is not to go to her bar for at least a week to show her that I'm fine without her. I'm expecting her to text me at one point. Any other game plans that I should use....?

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    Default Re: Bartender, trying to get her back.

    After two days of no contact I get this text:
    HB9: "What I wanted to tell u over the phone was that I've been thinking about u and I do miss u. But I'm not sure u really want to talk to me anymore. Sorry to bug you. Hope all is well *my name*

    What this mean?

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    Default Re: Bartender, trying to get her back.

    what it means is ....

    she cares for sure, she's a little confused to what she really wants.. i recall i was following your entire last thread.... she moved so quickly with you... it was too good to be true so she freaked and decided she wanted alone time instead of hurting you for being unsure.

    I think, keep the friendship for now and start fishing around, she is older with 2 kids and you are young and should be free to date people with similar status to you.

    play it by ear, but I wouldnt suggest being hung over it or being too optimistic about things....

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    Quote Originally Posted by studmuffin52 View Post
    what it means is ....

    she cares for sure, she's a little confused to what she really wants.. i recall i was following your entire last thread.... she moved so quickly with you... it was too good to be true so she freaked and decided she wanted alone time instead of hurting you for being unsure.

    I think, keep the friendship for now and start fishing around, she is older with 2 kids and you are young and should be free to date people with similar status to you.

    play it by ear, but I wouldnt suggest being hung over it or being too optimistic about things....
    Thanks for your reply. Good advice!

    So today we talked on the phone and we set up a date for Tuesday, I told her I want to see 'what's left'.

    Got a text earlier tonight that she has to work that night and has to cancel, with no alternative...

    I def have to focus on other girls and if she wants me she will need to show me...I make myself go insane with this girl. I def have strong feelings for her, but the way she handles things are really difficult to cope with...


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