So I was dating this girl for a while on and off,we had argued then talked but then we stopped talking for a little over a year. then I asked a mutual freind to tell her to call me, so we ended up talking again but she was really resisting at first, but when I told her how I thought about her and then she started saying how she had missed me too and that it felt like deja vu to talk to me again but it got sticky when she tells me she wants to be with me but shes got a new boyfreind and we havent talked in over a year. So now basically this guy's gotta go, but im not sure how to go about it. She also told me how their relationship was already "rocky" and that she doesnt talked to him much because he is in the military and tells me that she needs attention. However she tells me im "mean" and dont show my emotions and that I will need to change? I mean I want to be with her but how much should I care, without seeming needy or lonely. I know this isn't exactly ethical but I mean I was dating her before this guy so it is what it is. Any advice would help even BF destroyers.