What's up guys. New here, this is my first post. I'll sum up my break up as quickly as possible, then go into my plan to re-connect. Any feedback is welcome.
My ex and I broke up about six months ago. I won't go into too much detail but I will say that when things started going down hill, I started showing a lot of beta and low value traits, which is what I believe ultimately contributed to us not working it out. I have learned from my mistakes and lately have really been wanting another shot at it.
A few months after the break-up I started seeing someone else, but it's pretty casual and I don't see any long term potential in it. I do know that my ex is still single as well, but I think she may also be seeing someone causally. Over the past couple of months though, she has texted me a couple of times, not to meet up or anything, but just to "check-in". Since then I have also texted her in the same manner, and we joked, kept it casual and just caught up a little. A couple of weeks ago she also "re-friended" me on FB.
Now I know that most guys on here are going to tell me to continue to play it cool, no contact, and let her "take the lead". Here's the problem: she is EXTREMELY stubborn. And I am pretty sure she feels guilty about the break up and hurting me. I am fairly certain that regardless of how much she misses me or may want to see me, she will bury those feelings down, eventually just meet someone else, and all will be lost. I believe that I have taken no contact as far as it will go at this point and I need to initiate a meet eventually.
Here's the plan: I don't want to contact her and just ask if she wants to get together. I need a reason. She is a massage therapist so I was thinking about texting her to schedule a rub down. I train in jiu-jitsu, so being sore is nothing new or unusual. The massage will accomplish several things:
1. Set up a meeting with us that will allow for an hour of nothing but one-on-one time.
2. In that hour, there will be nothing but touching and rubbing, regardless of how "professional" it may be. (Plus I'm in better shape right now so it will give me a chance to show that off.)
3. It will allow me to work some game that I have been preparing. I plan on treating it not like someone I am trying to get back together with, but rather a new girl that I have just meet. Though I have a couple of sneaky plays up my sleeve as well. For instance, I was thinking about having a cute girl call me up in the middle of it, her pic pops up on my phone and the ex see's it. A little jeliousy never hurt anyone
So what are your guys thoughts? Do you think this is a good plan? And if anyone has any good routines or lines I could use that might be good conversation, I would be open to hearing them.