I will try and keep this as brief as possible
So my ex broke up with me two weeks before Christmas saying that she had lost attraction for me. We didn’t speak for the rest of the week but then she called me the following weekend. I couldn’t really make out what she was saying cos she was crying so much. I asked if she wanted me to come and get her (rookie mistake I know) and at first she said yes but then backtracked saying I couldn’t cos we had broken up. We didn’t speak again after that til Christmas Day when I text her as I had seen that she had written a flirty comment on her work colleagues photo which she had deleted straight after but another colleague had started mocking. This guy had been texting my ex before we split. I told her that I thought I had seen something I shouldn’t have but she denied anything was going on, that he had a girlfriend and that she was offended that I thought she would move on so quickly. She said that she was nowhere near over me. I told her I didn’t mean to offend her, just wanted to hear it from her if something was going on and wish her the best.
A few days later, she text me about 3am saying how much she missed me and was sad all the time. She also put on her Facebook that she was feeling really lonely. The next day she apologised for texting, saying that it was unfair on me. I told her not to worry.
The whole thing with this work colleague was still bugging me the next day and I made the mistake of logging on to her Facebook. I saw some flirty messages between them the night the photo commenting had taken place and also that she was moving in with him the weekend just gone (although that would be more down to her not having anywhere else to go). Unfortunately, I let my emotions get the better of me and pretended to send her an accidental text to someone I had bumped into that night followed by another saying ‘sorry, that wasn’t meant for you’.
I know looking back on all of this what massive errors I made and I also know the exact reason she broke up with me. The past week I have hit the gym, bought new clothes, stayed away from her Facebook and am feeling a lot better about myself but where do I go from here? Obviously this is a rebound relationship which surely won’t last as long as others if they’re living together (she can be quite high maintenance). I haven’t spoken to her for a week but at some point we need to meet up for me to give her her stuff back.
Any ideas where I should go from here? Do you think there’s any chance I can pull this back after my rookie mistakes? In a way, I’m kinda glad this happened as it’s made me see things clearer and do things to better myself and even after this, I still want her back in my life.