So I'll try to be fairly detailed so that everyone can get the just of the situation. I have been fairly exposed to the PUA community for a few years now. Anyways, I had been friends with this girl for about 5 years. We were close friends, then last April we became really close. In June we started dating. Everything was going great. I fell for her, and she told me she had fallen for me. Then right after thanksgiving she just stopped talking to me out of nowhere. I behaved rather AFC after a few days of not hearing from her, and after awhile she sent me a text saying we couldn't be together anymore. When I asked why she said she didn't love me. Then she asked me to leave her alone. I remained in the AFC state of mind for a few days and still kept trying to talk to her to figure out what had happened. Eventually I learned and stop talking to her like a smart man would do. Then one of my former friends, who is now in rehab for cocaine abuse, started really harassing her about everything. The guy didn't really have any boundaries and wouldn't leave her alone for like a month or so. Finally she ended up forwarding a few emails of his to me. I apologized to her for his behavior and eventually got him to quit. Shortly after that I went to rehab for alcohol abuse. I am sober now and my life has really turned around. The issue is, I play in a music group that frequently requires me to go to and gig at a night club that she works at. I will be resuming my work with them next month. I don't necessarily want my ex back. I would date her again under the right conditions because she was a genuinely interesting person, but that isn't really the goal. The thing is, I know that I am going to be seeing her around. We haven't actually spoken since the break up. I don't know if she will talk to me at all, or if everything will be just fine. I would like some advice on how to approach her when I see her though. Playing at the club she works at and having to see her all the time if we aren't talking to each other could be rather uncomfortable. I never called her names or got pissed off at her. So that isn't an issue. I was just a little pushy when she wanted to leave, and my former friend who did call her names and was a total jerk to her could have cause big issues.