Not really sure where to go from here

Hey guys,

So some of you may have read my previous post 'Need to Get Ex Back from rebound relationship'... but just to recap, I went NC for about a month and then out of the blue, she started texting me everyday for about a week. There was also a little bit of flirting. Anyway, she stayed at my house one night as she was working in my area the following day and we had a heart to heart. She admitted that she had been seeing someone for the past month or so and that she liked him. I asked why she came round and she felt that because I hadn't been in touch, that I had forgotten about her and was over her. I told her I hadn't but I was coping. She said that she thinks about me everyday and is always looking through photos of us and crys. She even told me that I was 'the one'. She wanted me to share the bed that night and we cuddled all night (nothing more). I met her for lunch the next day and she said she was confused as she feels that her and this other guy are more compatible but she still has very strong feelings for me and said that I was the only person who made her feel like she could do anything. I told her she needs to sort her own life out before anything else (she's currently crashing at a friends and is on the verge of losing her job). She concurred.

She stayed over again last weekend but acted differently. She didn't want me to stay in the same room that night at first but then later called me upstairs saying she couldn't sleep up there on her own. Then in the middle of the night, asked for a cuddle.

Now I know a lot of sites on the net say that if she's seeing someone else you should just stand back and hope that it doesn't last and you can be there to pick up the pieces but the way I see it, she's been seeing this guy for nearly 2 months and yet still thinks about me all the time so she can't be that into him really can she?

I'm not sure where to go from here. Do I chase or do I sit back and wait? Part of me also thinks that she's scared to give it another go incase I mess up again (I didn't cheat or anything but was apparently too nice, I have changed since though)

Any thoughts guys?

Hi danhats,

My thoughts are that you should game a lot of other girls and after you've farked a bunch ask yourself if its worth taking this girl back. She doesn't seem to be the most emotionally healthy girl.

rs5096

See, before I met up with her I was all up for just sleeping around and then see how I felt after that but after seeing her, it just confirmed how much I want to be with her.

It kinda felt the other day that she was just trying to find reasons not to get back together but I'm thinking that she's just scared it won't work again.

Hey danhats,

I think you need to concentrate on yourself here. Workout, do cool things, read good self-development books. Get some distance and perspective.

Tie up your time for you. If she calls tell her you're doing indoor rockclimbing or something and go enjoy it.

Introduce elements of Push Pull to your advantage not hers. You're the prize, bro'. She needs to fit in with your time not the other way 'round.

Once you get the perspective you need you'll make the right choice for you and probably have a lot of other interested girls out there.

Hope this helps.

rs5096.