First post here, feel kind of bad about it being a request for help, but not sure where else to go.
I have been with a girl for the past 9 months. Great personality, awesome girl, things went really really well (with occasional problems, of course). About 6 months in we took a break for 1 month, but we got back together and things were even better than before.
Around new years, I began to get depressed. Seriously, probably clinically depressed. I retracted and stopped paying her lots of attention. She was angry that I wouldn't tell her anything.
Two weeks ago, we talked about the depression since I was finally coming out of it. Here's where I seriously screwed up: I tried for the past two weeks to show her how much I love her, and became a full-on needy doormat in the process. Something I strictly avoided up until then.
So, last night, she told me "I still love you, but now it's just as a friend. I'm really really going to miss you, and I love spending time with you and have a lot of fun. I just have no more desire to kiss you. I don't want to hurt you... but I tried really hard, and I don't foresee it changing in the near future."
I handled it well. I asked how she felt, tried to understand her. Asked if she saw a future (she didn't). She was in tears the entire time, and was full on crying at points (I kept a straight face). I hugged her and said goodbye and good night.
Since we both go to school together (college juniors), I see her at meals (we have mutual friends). Today we didn't really speak, but both acted happy during lunch and dinner, and spoke to other people at the table.
I miss her. Today was hell. I know I can be the man she needs (not a doormat, and not needy), but I don't know how to show it to her. I know I can't convince her, and have barely resisted to urge to call or text her today.
Is there a potential to fix things? What is my next step? I'm under the impression I should ignore her for a while, flirt with other girls, and basically show her what she's missing and let her make the first move. Is that accurate? I know she genuinely cares about me... she just lost her attraction to me.
Thanks for any advice.