The Art of the Profile Picture

Nothing on facebook is more important to attracting girls than the profile picture. I've experimented with several profile pictures and here is what I've come up with:

1.) Pictures involving "showing off" are not effective.

This includes the generic mirror picture or any shirtless picture where you are non-verbally saying, "Hey, look at my awesome body." It doesn't matter how chiseled your abs are or how large your biceps are, the insecurities of your cry for attention will always outweigh the benefits of actually having an attractive body. By putting up this type of picture you are trying to impress others and in turn raise your social value. However, the opposite effect actually takes place. Alpha males do not need to show off anything. They are independent and content with who they are. They are not trying to impress anyone, rather they are the ones who are being impressed by others. Girls sub-consciously notice this. To determine which pictures fall under this category, ask yourself if the sole purpose of the picture is to show off or impress another individual.

2.) Do not smile. Do not look at the camera.

When you smile into the camera, you are engaging your audience. Your attention is focused on the audience and this may not necessarily be the best way to grab a girl's attention. By not looking directly at the camera, you reverse the effect and act like someone who does not need to engage others. You appear more mysterious and stand out from the crowd. The objective of this picture is to Get Girls thinking, "Why is his attention not focused on me? What is it about this guy that makes him so special that he does not need to engage others?" By doing this, you appear more interesting and display another quality of alpha males.

3.) Do not pose too hard. Act natural.

You are not derek zoolander, and therefore should not be doing an impression of blue steel in your picture. Nothing looks sillier than an ugly guy who thinks he's a model. It is best to appear relaxed and act natural. Effective pictures often involve you doing something in a comfortable environment. For example, if you enjoy fishing then a picture of you fishing would be a good choice.

4.) I don't like group pictures.

For some reason I am not a fan of group pictures. It makes the person seem less independent and it shifts the focus from the individual to the group. Remember, the goal is to get the girl interested in you and to do this you must appear unique from the crowd.

5.) Baby pictures work to some extent.

Girls love this sh1t. They think it's cute and it gives you a sense of innocence. However, be careful not to cross the line. You don't want to appear like you are living in the past or trying to hide your current unattractive state.

6.) Do not put up a million profile pictures.

Girls do this, not guys. We should not appear like we are overly concerned with our appearance.

Some really good tips....... Just a question my current profile picture is of on stage performing with my Guitar is this a good one, or is it too try hard?? What do u think??

I like where you're going w/ this but group photos shows you have friends and that you're a social dude.

I'm pretty goofy w/ my friends so I ALWAYS pose for my pics, I've NEVER heard a negative thing. I always here, "You're too much." or "You're, silly."

Really good post though.

Funny, because my profile pic I am not looking at the camera, and look pre-occupied. I accidently have exactly what you suggested....

Glad to know I am on the right track.

Good points here. You do not want to look like you are trying hard on your profile pics. I do think that you should smile on your pictures because that disarms the chic and puts her at ease.

I think you make some solid points.

I also think you left out one key factor: Low quality pictures that are hard to see are pretty much useless.