How To Get Over Shyness

Great advice posted in this thread indeed! Another way that really has helped me (as well as several buddies of mine) tackle shyness while walking up and talking to girls was done by identifying my shortcomings, and accepting them.

I'm pretty short at 5'5, which made me feel REALLY insecure whenever around ladies. This particular insecurity constantly resonated in the back of my mind, which prevented me from approaching and talking to chicks at the bar.

But by identifying and accepting the shortcoming (which was pretty hard to do at first), I was able to tackle my issues with being overly shy, especially around the ladies.

That in turn gave me a MAJOR boost in self-confidence, which ultimately helped improve my pick-up game.

Hope this helps,

Max

I am also working on getting over my shyness...

@TeamGFH34,

Everyone constantly is

The info I posted should be able to help you. Beating shyness will take awhile, but it can be done. No matter how well you deal with the issue, there'll always be a time where you'll feel a little shy, but through practice, you'll learn how to overcome the problem as the situation plays itself out.

Hope this helps,

Max

Would any of you say that the fear of rejection and Approach Anxiety are pretty much shyness at the core. I have been thinking alot about it beacause those are my challenges at the moment.

Yeah they're basically emotions of doubt or insecurity anyhow. One way to beat it would be through identifying the things that make you feel insecure, and learn to accept your "shortcomings".

Once you've finally accepted these shortcomings or self-limiting doubts, you'll start to feel more relaxed as you approach and converse with a girl. And through practice and a good game plan, you'll be great!

You just summed up awaken the giant within by Anthony Robbins in a 1000 words. Good job

It's not shyness. It's your pride. You're afraid of getting your pride hurt. I'm in network marketing and I had the same problem. Not anymore though. Do it anyway. If she says no, check if you're bleeding, if not, NEXT.

Great share. It's best not to avoid situations that make you uncomfortable. It will be hard at first but you'll know what it was like and learn from it. Approaching a woman, public speaking, and other social situations are basically the same. Just go and take the plunge.

Took me some time to realize this but negging or not negging will work. As long as you are comfortable. Chances are, the more comfortable you feel whlist interacting the more chance of YOUR OWN personality shining. Girls are attracted to men who know who they are, what they want, and who know how to get it. They don't want a man who is lost in his own little space of personality and don't know who they are. Think of it from a woman's perspective. How will a guy know who she is if he doesn't even know himself.

I've been through this argument with some PUAs here. I even told them, I don't like the term PUA anymore. Because, it's all about self improvement and not about "picking up" but about being yourself. The picking up of a woman will come if you are able to pick up yourself form whatever negativity you feel. I am at the most confident I've ever been in my life right now and it feels great!

What works for Mystery may not work for you. It's all about the individual. Things like keeping yourself fresh and looking good, keeping in shape and all of that are very helpful. But at the end, you need to know yourself and be happy with who you are.

Read as many self improvement books as you can, even if you don't feel you need to improve in that department. You'll be surprised at how much you will learn that you didn't know. Also, try and help out friends. They say the best way to learn is to teach. Don't tell them YOU HAVE TO DO THIS OR THAT but try and offer advice, and try to heed your own advice. Don't be a hypocrite.

For me I get deflated when I think of asking for the girls number or whatever takes to a more real level. Then I get NO. I need to figure out how to stay up through the close and not have getting zeros confirm my suspicions.