I think I found the right place...

Hi,

Ian here and I'm new, obviously. I came here to learn a few things. So far I have read DyD and I'm reading Tynan's book Make Her Chase You right now. I haven't read David D's book in while so I'm going to read again soon. This may be a little long but I'd like to share my story with the community.
I've never been really good with women but I did get to a point when I was comfortable with them when I first went to college. Also alone for the first time in my life.

No coincidence I was in the best shape of my life at this time, (still not ripped mind you but fit) made eye contact, talked freely about my interests and had several good looking girls on the line in the span of a few years. It recently occurred to me that I don't act that way anymore, back then I did brave things, I was nervous but I did them. Now, I'm only 26 and I'm out of shape, I rarely leave home, I feel nervous around people, and struggle to make eye contact. I have a lack of confidence in my appearance and expressing myself, I avoid sharing my interests with people, etc.

But I'm ready to stop existing, get outside and start living! I want to see all sorts of things, do things, attract people and meet women. Sleeping with women isn't even the goal here. It's something bigger, it's about improving my quality of life. I just know that the best is yet to come.

I'm not sure where to start but I know it's gonna come down to leaving my Comfort zone (all my life fear has been my #1 motivator or demotivator as it were) little bit by little bit. I've started working out again and I'd like to begin the PUA by taking baby steps out in the real world and maybe complement that with testing the waters online, because I know it's a little less intimidating.

Any help or advice I can get from you guys is appreciated. We're all in this together, right?

Many thanks,

Ian

Ian my man, this challenge is tough for everyone and sometimes you feel like you are making no progress and even sometimes like you are making negative progress. Having somewhat completed my journey and being at a place where I am deeply satisfied with my success with women, I can say it is a tough road but worth it.

The key is to allow yourself to get out of your Comfort zone.

Another great thing... don't try to score or get women as much as try to bring value and love to people around you (guys and girls). That will get you the women you deserve.

Peace

Wow Bill,

This is what I love about the PUA community and why I'm on board with it. I know some ppl who judge it, but I have found that a lot of those men AND women act like jerks toward people while the guys here are trying to give women what they want and improving themselves as a person in the process. Thanks for the words of wisdom, you've reaffirmed my choice.

lol ... the PUA community is just guys doing what women have done since the stone ages: A close community getting the upper hand... They've got Cosmo, we got PUA.. lol

Are there any guides that give steps to take, like day 1... try and make eye sustained eye contact to 1 girl, or say hi to someone. Something like that?
I'd like to work my way up that way with small goals each day.