Opening

My game is pretty good as soon as I'm in a conversation with a girl, I can pretty much always make them attracted to me using push/pull, bodylanguage and eye contact. I also don't have a problem closing with girls.

What I'm really struggling with is opening, I find it so difficult to make myself go and open, and because of this I have had to largley restrict my game to girls I'm introduced to or if they approach me.

I think it's because I hate the feeling that it would seem blatent I'm hitting on them. Me and my mate are in the game together and he is really good at opinion openers so I can open a set along side him but it still takes me a few minutes to prepare myself to go and actually do it.

If anyone has some advice, or some openers that have a less 'canned' feel to them please help as it's grinding away at me!

Honestly, once you master opening - it seriously will be absolutely the easiest part of the game. A great way to become better at opening is the same way you got good at riding a bike when you were a kid. JUST DOING IT.

Also, you need a who gives a fark attitude. One thing my friends at The Social Man do for their boot camps is called a "Bombing Run" where you intentionally approach a set of girls and get blown out by saying something completely off the wall about yourself. DO NOT MAKE FUN OF THE GIRL, try to make fun of yourself.

Your goal is to make her reject you, because you are so weird or whatever.

Once you feel total rejection at the beginning of the night, you will pretty much lose all Approach Anxiety for the evening.

Try it, I swear it works.

Bill

I think this is sold out, but it is exactly what you are looking for: Say Hello

Thanks Bill

That 'Say Hello' class sounds like it was made for me. Gutted it's sold out.

I will definitely try out the Bombing Run tomorrow evening, I think that it will help my confidence for the rest of my sets that night. I'm also going somewhere out of town so I can just completely rip myself and it won't matter. I'll let you know how it goes.

Jack