This Girl (the one who started it all)

Hey, guys
ok heres the problem. So im a senior in highschool this year, and ive been in the game since..well about freshmen year. so ive been doing this stuff for awhile, making a few mistakes, but ultimately it helped me out a ton, i was clueless b4 lol. any who there's this girl in my class that i have liked forever..she was the one that got me all into this stuff lol..anyways years back wen i was first learning all of this stuff i use to always try to pursue her..and ove course that didn't work out so great..so ive moved on and had my share..but the weird thing is now is that this year she seems to be always initiating conversations and trying to talk to me all the time for random reasons...i have even notice that she has used excuses in touching me and things like that..i was sorta standoffish bc i know she has a bf..but that's the only reason cuz i would date her if she didn't...anyways i need your guys help cuz i think i am messing things up for myself...at first i was standoffish, but now i sit by her whenever i can,she seems to like it but should i be more of a challenge or am i doing the right thing?..oh i also would love some ways i could use some Kino during our conversations during classes that wouldn't make her uncomfortable or anything..oh yeah and the bf thing i need good ways to get rid of that..shes a really cool girl so i don't want to unnecessarily mess this up Thanks GUYS and IM ready for a GOOD YEAR!

well one way you could Kino that always works for me is take her hands in yours and sqeeze them lightly and if she sqeezes back one thiing to do if you have Isolation is say 'im trying so hard not to kiss you' or 'would you like to kiss me?'
or have hersheys kiss in your pocket and say to her after kino "would you like a kiss?"
if she says yess then you obvi have the chance to kiss her and make the connection stonger, if she says no just pull out the hersheys kiss and eat it quickly before she has a chance to object and just laugh. then you will come off as just funny nd not in the pursuit of a kiss.
good luck man.

I'm a bit worried here ZiGzAg. I like your idea about "I'm trying hard not to kiss you" but "would you like to kiss?" makes it sound like you needed her approval to go in for the kiss which would put a small dent in your reputation to her. I've learned from gunsnglory that if you feel it's the right moment, don't let it slip away. If you can feel the moment but it's just not the right timing you can tell the girl that you wanted to kiss her then either give her a wink or maybe a small nudge/body check kinda thing to ease things up. This way you're saving the state of emotion and you can take it back out and use it when you guys are isolated or enter a better environment.

For school, what I've done so far is take around and tease her a little and then I'd say something like "haha, silly" and then lightly touch her head. A good way that I've started kino was the good ole *tap her on the opposite shoulder* and let her find you. Gunsnglory here has recommended me to try to gain an opportunity to hug her whenever possible (although I haven't been able to do it yet). The hug is difficult and most likely will require you to get her out of a school environment first and when she gets comfortable enough you can then bring it to a school environment.

First of all, if your going to ask someone to take the time to talk to you and try to help you, then take the time to use proper grammer and punctuation. It is damn hard to read otherwise.

So it sounds like she is into you. Great. It means you don't have to do anything to raise attraction. A very simplified attraction formula looks like this:

Build Attraction

Isolate

Build more attraction if necessary.

Close


You don't have to worry about the first one, so move to step two. From what you have said, there really isn't even a need to verify the attraction, it is already there. Do a Push Pull, just to make sure you have her in your pocket, then tell her you are doing X on Y day and she should come. She will most likely jump at the chance if she can, and if she can't just wait awhile and let her know about something else. If she does keep blowing you off, neg her a bit, then mention something else. Never ask her if she WANTS to come to anything, tell her she SHOULD come to whatever the event is.

When you get her to the event work on boosting the attraction a bit, then isolating her (or if you are isolated already, just work on the attraction) so that you can close.