asking her out

Hey, just need some quick advise here.
I got this girl im just dying to get...

thing is, i have her phone number, fb, bbm everything but i just cant seem to get her to go out and do something with me... im pretty good when im in position to attack, but im not getting her to the battlefield...

two important facts:
we talk on blackberry messenger a lot, im always the one saying hi

second, when i see her at a club or at some place i just crossed a few words with her.. but one time we were at a party and i was kinda drunk and i just laid everything out.. ¨ i realli like you, you are gorgeous, you seemed like a good person,... blah blah blah¨ so i think this was a bad a idea.. so much for alcohol..

i am honestly dying to get her.. what should i do!!

How long ago was the "I'm drunk so I like you" conversation? (we've all been there, no worries bro. just trying to gauge it).

One, plan something out with a bunch of friends and invite her to attend, or just invite her to dinner. Make sure you're not asking her, you're telling her that you are going to a certain place at a certain time and she should join you (this is why planning out something with a lot of people is easier). If you do a group thing, make sure to say you'd like her to join "you" and not "us", and make sure somewhere in the group thing you can get her alone (picking her up works well for this). Three things will come from this. One, she says yes. Two, she says no but offers you a counter (do not take the counter. The counter is an indicator that she is interested, but gives her control. Just say that won't work and that you'll get back to her). Three, she says no with no counter. If three occurs, do not talk to her at all for at least a week, then out of the blue make one more offer. If she refuses again, you will delete her number and you're done with it.

And if you hear the dreaded, "let's just be friends," you look her dead in the eye with a genuine, honest smile on your face, and say "You seem like a genuine person, but I have enough friends right now. It was a pleasure to meet you." Shake her hand, walk away and do not look back. You will not believe how powerful this line is, but it absolutely has to come from a genuine place and not a spiteful one. I've always toyed around with "Wow, really? You seemed like you had a better eye for people." I only got to use this one once, but she seemed dumbfounded and called me the next day for a date.

Let me know how it goes!

We've all made this horrible mistake. Let me tell you something. IT NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER WORKS. It is probably the worst possible thing you can do. I can't stress this enough.

This is fantastic advice. Once you show without a doubt that you are willing to move on, you will begin to get some of the attraction back. It has to be genuine and you have to be fully committed to this action. If not, the girl will sense it and it won't work. THIS IS THE ONLY WAY that I've found to get a woman who places you in the friend zone.

Bill

ok, quick update on this...

i talked to her last saturday like hey what your doing blah blah... she saied something like no plans for now, i said well theres this new bar, i went last night but im thinking of going tonight again cuz it rocks (honestly i wanted to go to the bar again w/ or without her) so i invite her in..

she never replied the message.... on monday i just said hi to her, and she replied im suck a looser i eneded up doing nothing on satuday..

i just replied and angry face and said thats really dumb, would have spent a great time at this place blah blah blah.... and suddenly she drop the bomb! ¨ I dont know if you know this, but I have a Boyfriend¨ i replied ¨Lol, really?¨ whats his name ? i ask his name just because in my town everyone knows everyone... she never replied back and i have talked to her since..

I'm thinking you went a little too strong with the "well you should have come" comments. Keep those light hearted, fun, and vague. Try something like "That's no fun. Man, that place was crazy the other night." and leave it at that for her to guess. But I'm just guessing from the info you gave us.

As far as boyfriends go, here is my absolute favorite response (sorry if I've posted it here before).
Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: That's cool. I have a goldfish.
Her: Um, what?
You: I'm sorry. I thought we were talking about sh1t that doesn't matter.

And then continue your conversation without ever bringing it up again.

But, sorry to say it bro, you may have to let this one go. My advice is to go find three new women and juggle them all. It'll clear your head, and won't give you the time to worry about any of them for more than a few minutes. Good luck!

@ Ambition, Thank you so much! I haven't laughed that hard in a while, That really has to be one of the best reply's to "I have a boyfriend".

Cheers

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One of the things that it appears that you're doing that you have to stop is re-initiating a conversation after she never gets back to you.

If it's the weekend and she leaves an obvious text that she should have responded to unanswered, you should not be texting her "hey, how's it going" on Monday.

That type of stuff, along with the drunken, "I really like you" pry bespoke some neediness and pushed her away, and it's not surprising that she told you about some boyf.

If you did want to salvage this one, you'd have to cut the needy texting out immediately, and play the whole, "well you have a boyfriend, so obviously I just want to be friends. I love using the boyfriend as a barrier, "we definitely shouldn't do anything, you have a boyfriend, but the key to making this work out is if the rest of your communication with her is laid back, non, needy, and demonstrating of the fact that you're a cool guy with other women in his life.

You would also be shifting in some sexual body language and eye contact to build some Sexual Tension while you swear that you're "just trying to be friends".

Remember, if she's not doing her part, then it may be best to lay off he gas a little to see how she responds to that, which is usually very strongly.