pua ethics

There are 2 possible scenarios why this happened.

1) As gunsnglory has indicated : She rationalized herself that her man is more important (hence I lost).

2) She gaming me and wants to see how far she can take things without letting me going too far.

I took what you've said into account and thought about it carefully. I didn't believe your words right away. I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt.

She walks into class today and notices that I'm sitting next to my decoy. She sits down at her usual spot with that "what the hell?" look. Then using what I've learned from cyc I tried to project the fun and comfortable guy thing by saying "why are you sitting so far from me? come and sit here." She says "no, I like sitting in the center more." Her attraction signs by now have disappeared. So I continued to be playful with her (I didn't want to make it too obvious).

Eventually, I noticed my decoy becoming a whiny little bitch and I got annoyed so I had to make up some excuse to sit beside Girl A. When I sat next to her, we chatted as normal but she still tried to brush her hair a few times (as if showing signs that she's attracted to me). Now I know how things went. I could get a feel for what happened (I'm not stupid), but I was amazed that she didn't look like she was turned off and it looked like "if you're still good, I'm still a go" type of attitude. With the pop-corn test I did on her yesterday clearly she isn't into me (at least not anymore) and now this sudden change?

I then thought about it some more and the trail of events of how it happened

- I sat next to her and showed her major interest
- We arranged a study group and she couldn't wait to join
- She offered to take my number
- We went on a group event and she said it was great (even though it was totally awkward)
- We went on this most recent date that screwed up (with her calling her bf in front of me)

And here she is showing everything is perfectly fine? The deal seemed too good to be true. I don't know about the others but when something seems too easy to get and too good to be true, something's wrong. I'm not going to do the "I would like to meet your bf" thing but I would turn her into a friend and make her my Pivot instead.

I want to take this time to thank gunsnglory for all the help I got from him (I love you dude, I've learned so much from you). I also wanted to thank Instinct for giving me a hit in the head when I was blind to see that this girl is gaming me hard and I totally fell for it.

I feel I have a more solid ground of my ethics after reading this. I do want to clarify that I still feel if a girl has a BF it is fine for me to take it out of his hand except my bros of course (if he is incapable of handling her) but from this lesson, I've learned not to go for a girl who LIVES with her bf because 1) it's too complicating 2) He can rebuild quickly. Maybe one day this will change when I master the art of pick up but at this point, it is way far fetched.

Yeah, I think your right, she is has changed her mind, or has been playing you. JHowever, Instinct is right. She is easy to friend at this point. I would take advantage of that. Best case scenario is that you can use her for social proof, worst case, you learned a lot from the experience.