When they talk about themselves too much...

I am not sure how to make guys feel more comfortable.

It seems that they talk about themselves until I can't stand it anymore, but I assume that this is because they are nervous.

Ho can I make them feel that htey can talk about other things?

I personally feel that many people will breakdown in their speech while they are nervous. You should make them more comfortable by starting a conversation instead of waiting for him to start.

talk about things you find interesting don't ask them questions one after another.relax and have fun "FLIRT" instead of asking questions...and if that fails joke around and tell them okay I have ya lifes story impress me with something else...if you can get them laughing they will relax...

If a guy is nervous, there is a tendency for him to talk rapidly. As a result, the girl that he is talking too find it weird and sometimes thinks he is owning the whole conversation time. If that would be the case, if you find him nervous, try to make him relax by starting a good conversation; anything that is interesting can change the mood.

Oh my this is a first. I get to give advice to a woman, about how to be amazingly pick-up-able!

First things first:
Smile a lot. It really means a lot for a guy if you smile and look him in the eyes. It lets him know that you are interested.

As for the conversation. Feel free to laugh at what he says, and even interrupt him, if you have something interesting to add. The problem is that when a guy gets nervous he will often think that you aren't responding (even though he hasn't given you time). Instead of slowing down or changing conversations tactics like he ought to, he will freak-out and start rambling on about anything. Of course that makes it even harder for you to get a line in edgewise or for the conversation to go anywhere. If he keeps rambling, help him out, but interjecting something and sharing a related experience about yourself. Also if the conversation flags, feel free to start a completely different conversation. Guys have the hardest part chatting up a girl because we have to be entertaining and keep the girl interested, however if you are interested in the guy, even when he is messing up, feel free to say something or anything. Even if it isn't interesting to the guy, he isn't going to reject you and walk off. He will be very grateful and relax since you threw him a life line.

Aww, feel free to touch us, like our arms (yey, instant Kino) and interrupt and I dunno, maybe say, "All interesting but am thirsty, let's get refills." I should think the touch will be enough to calm someone down. Hehe.

Yeah. You don't want to appear as if you are coming on to the guy, but if you like him, do everything you can to make him think that what he is doing is working. Even if it isn't, he will relax and start to be more himself. So touching lightly is a very good thing.

You can also be more proactive and ask questions that you'd like to hear the answers to. At least, even if the guy is rambling, he's rambling about something that interests you.... or gives you a better idea if he's a man you'd want.

thx,man

just be open. tell that person to relax for awhile. you might hold his hand for a sec if you wish to. just be spontaneous. a good conversation is how you can able to listen to that person and able to relate in his stories.