Boyfriend Destroyer

Don't ever, never, ever ask if she has a boyfriend! Maybe she does, maybe not - so what, who cares? Maybe she does, but wants to have a little fun - your prompting about a possible "borefriend" will put her off the mood, she'll move on to another guy and get what she came looking for anyway.

Or maybe she does, but is also pretty curious about you and wouldn't want the existence of a boyfriend scare you away. She might even be considering dumping him in favor of you.

If however she blurts it out without prompting, it still doesn't mean anything. Maybe she really thought she wanted to scare you away, but she really didn't know what she was doing. Take it humorously, be light hearted and give her another chance.

Examples:

HB: Sorry, but I have a boyfriend.
You: (laughing) Hey, I just met you and you are already telling me about your problems?

One reason she might be saying she has a BF is that she really does have a BF, likes you, but doesn't want to feel guilty about cheating on her BF. This is classical chick logic at work here and is good, because it means you are on your way to a fark, even in spite of the BF.

Basically this happens because she thinks that if she tells you about the BF now, she can relax and let you you fark her anyways, since its not her fault now that she f'd you, because, she did tell you about the boyfriend, and you ignored it (ie. she had no choice in the matter).

HER: I have a boyfriend.
ME: That's nice, so anyway (ignore the topic and so will she).

Her: I have a boyfriend
You: Thats good - I'm not really looking for a girlfriend either.

Try those out.

Just because there's a goalie doesn't meant you shouldn't try to score!

Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: What, you want another one?

Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: That's cute.

Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: Great. Now am sure you're not lesbian.

Read somewhere that when someone mentions she has a BF, the first thing you do is IGNORE that fact. If she mentions the BF again, do the following:

1) never bash the bf (let her do it for you)

2) seduce her with sensual imagery while disqualifying yourself (awww. And here I thought I could interest you with massage tonight. Guess my hands will never get to ease the Tension on your shoulders [lightly touch her shoulder] and your back)

3) build up the BF so much that his faults get amplified (I take it he's the loving, attentive type and that you already see yourself married to him in what, a year's time? And he cooks and do chores too? And your parents love him, am I right?)

4) talk about how you're non-BF material (well it's good you found yourself someone like him. Had you been my girl, we'd always just be shagging and am sure to forget anniversaries and birthdays, but i'd say sorry through shagging as well... and break up with you but still insist we shag / what, he's not calling you all the time? Oh girl, if I had been your boyfriend, we'd be connected everyday, all the time. I'd set up your phone so we can Tweet each other and I'd chat with you on YM in between. And i'd call you every 2 hours and i'd make you report to me every 3. I'd even chaperone you to PJ parties ands what-not. You won't ever think I don't want you.)

I believe this tactic can also work for single ladies and their past flames.

This is so funny, last night I was with a girl, things were going great, hell, she opened me, and then her friend came by and she told me "Oh! I have a boyfriend!' and I did the "He must be like the most fun, most spontaneous, romantic, stylish, daring, macho, sensitive" guy on the planet, and she "goes, well...not really, hes not even here anyway". The game was on, so whoever said that line above, thanks.

Then, this morning in getting things ready for my new years party, I ran into a girl who I got very close with, who told me that she had a boyfriend so dont tell anyone, I ran into her with her boyfriend, we both smiled really hard at each other and kept walking, he was like "what!"

That said, I am almost 100% against dating a women who has a boyfriend, unless he knows about her dating multiple guys, because if she is lying to him, than she is a liar, and I don't surround myself by liars.

Forgive me for butting in...but Mystery... I don't think No. 4 is about trying to Impress A Girl... if I had a bf and said that to a guy hitting on me, and he said those things... I'd most probably laugh, think he's witty and original, and the conversation would have been prolonged. I may not date him (well, like Instinct, I hate complications) but he'd still have made an impression, which is what you're after.

Plus, some girls say they have a BF just to brush aside a guy.... so how will you know the truth if you don't get that extra few minutes to find out for sure?