How to ask movie?

I tell first some background. I met a girl in party I wrote with huge mark pen her arm something wonderful (as woman say). Then I heard awws.

Next day she added me to Messenger: "She add me because our together friend has say so." Good excuse to add me...

After that we've have got to know eachother. I get some IOI's and a quite many laugh- and smile-smileys. Sometimes she just says in MSN "Hi." or asks "How are you doing?"
When I was drunken I "accidentally" Messaged to her: "I gotta admit something..." "You are a quite cute." Then she said something like "How lovely" and put lots of hearts. Anyway it was positive, not a sarcastic answer.

A couple of days after that we went with our boths friend to a one place. I didn't know that the girl who Iam interested was there too. We didn't have any chat or eye contact. I didn't want to bother her. A quite soon she left the place. Is it possible that she had some kind of anxiety? Because she has asked even after those things: "How Iam doing?" And other suchoflike things.

Yesterday she was on a party with with the friend which if friend of our both (she is a girl too and knows about our "tension"). I got message from "our boths friend" msn: "Greetings from -(the girl im interested)" After that I type "Greetings from (newbee)" Then we have a bit chit-chat. Finally I messaged: "Ive gotta go." Then I got hearts and bye. She was drunk, but alcohol is thruth serum.

But Im wondering was the friend just messing with me and teasing the girl im interested.

I want to ask her to movies. I got a real excuse for movies. I have a free ticket. After movie we could bounce around city... and you know one thing leads to other.

How should I ask her or should I even ask her? Waddya think? If I ask should I ask in MSN like:

I "Hi"
She "Hi"
I "Come movies with me."
*blablabla*
Call me then: 12345678

Tell a better way to ask if this isn't a good one. And tell me good answers for different reactions of her. I want to ask like she is sure Im not joking.

Ask her if she likes movies, if she says yes, then say GOOD, because you have tickets and will talke her to see so-and-so movie.

If she says, IT DEPENDS WHAT KIND OF MOVIE, you say, GOOD, because you have tickets and will take her and find out together if you'll like so and so movie.

If you´ve gotten the IoI´s like you said you did (and they´re legit), and she doesn´t talk to you when you actually see her i´d say she is shy..

If she´s shy she feels like you´re of higher value than her so i would just straight up ask her to come to the movies with you like you suggested.

If you´re not sure IF she´s just shy and that you could be interpreting the MSN messages in the wrong way i´d say something like Pinai suggested..

Or you could say to her in a funny playfull way

"Can you behave around me?"
she replies
"I just wanted to know that if i'd ask you to go to the movies with me that you would behave"
she replies
"Hmm ok i'll give you a chance"

It can be shyness or she has low self-esteem... What if I tell something like: "I have a free ticket for movies. I don't like going movies alone. So why don't you come movies with me?" Is it more natural without agenda? Or Am I explaining too much if I ask like that?

Don't dude. You're essentially telling her you're needy and got no one else to watch the movie with.

I asked her something like:
I: "Hi"
She: "Hi"
I: "Come movie tomorrow"
She: "What movie?"
I: "Avatar, our colleges students have free-movie-day.
She: "If horses won't take too much time tomorrow. "
(I don't actually remember what she exactly messaged but it was something like that)
I: "I might be busy tomorrow, notice me"
She: "Yeeeeees"

What you think what is going to happen? Did she just put smiley and horse-excuse that I wouldn't feel bad for rejection? Or does she really want to go but she ain't sure? I once dated a horse girl and I know that horsehobbies are really time-consuming.

I feel exited in a good way... :S

Well, if she's already doing something, then don't count on it anymore. Just go on your own and watch the movie. I heard it's good. If she texts you saying sorry and blah-blah, then just tell her she missed something really good. If you're feeling extra confident, ask her to make it up to you.

__________________
~ I shall not be denied

After asking movie she had a quite long pause with messaging. On one day she asked again how I was doing. I first thought that I had destroyed the attraction. What this means? Was she too shy to go to movie or "Am I too good for her"?

I think that I should make comfort more with messaging. But I "fear" that it will be just messaging... What ya think?

Btw im not needy about this girl, but im intrested in her.

why arent you talking on the phone already? msn is too impersonal, you dont get to hear actual responses and tone of voice will tell you a lot.

Brother, listen good.


This seems to be a bit of a shy type.


Here is how you play it.


If you like the girl, you take the girl. They don't care when, or where.


If you want to go to the movies, find a movie you want to watch.


Call her and say "I was finally able to find some free time and am going to watch a movie, it's at TIME. Come with me"

Change the tone of your voice more assertive on the come with me.



It changes to a command, and if she likes you she will make the time and go.

If she is into you, she will not care what she does with you, as long as she is with you.

when at the movies, if they have seats without the arm rests sit close to her, if it has arm rests hold her hand if she places it on the arm rest. move your thumb occasionally along the side of hers so that she knows you enjoy being next to her and able to hold her.


It is both an IOI that she knows and will understand, as well as knowing that you in your mind enjoy having her with you.





Simple,


-DjAndarial

Good point, I forgot it entirely. It's easier to be cocky and funny in phone too. Ive had many misunderstandings with messages...

^^ be carefull with cocky and funny some people have noticed it becoming a bad trait that would turn some woman off.

I asked something about horses. She answered and there was smiley. Then I was kidding: "I was going to get a horse." She replied: "I can care it then. " (IoI?) I replied: "Just horserace things" (im really interested in it) Then I asked: "Have you never been on horseracing?" She replied: "No. " I replied: "Ok. " After that we didn't message more.

What you think is she really interested or is she just being "nice"? This is interesting... :S