I'm afraid to kiss

- Yes it is true. I'm afraid to initiate the kiss. Or just the whole kissing-thing. And I'm emberassed. Anyways, someone told me to post it here and maybe some of you good guys could give a AFC some advices?

//Roose

hey guys - he's seen the whiskey kiss video...

WHAT other advice do you guys have for someone who is 'afraid to kiss'

(note: he is a good looking guy, he can chat up girls and generate attraction, he is just afraid to seal the deal with a kiss).

Help him out, since I know some of you have had similar issues in the past and have found a way to get over it.

MAD reputation bonus from me for guys who help.

BP

It's like going on a roller coaster for the first time. Once you ride it, you won't be afraid of it anymore.

I think if you keep trying to kiss a girl and she pulls away, you should keep subtly trying and she'll eventually give in. Life is too farking boring to not try. You can tell her that.

Basically you're going to have to take a risk. Just bite your lip, take a breath and go for the kiss. Either she kisses you back or she doesn't, and from there you'll know if you did well or not.

But if you're looking for a routine, try one I got from Style. Look her in the eye and say "Do you want to kiss me?"
She'll say one of three things...
No - You respond "I didn't say you could. You just looked like you had something on your mind."
Yes - She'll rarely say this, but if she does, kiss her.
Maybe - This is the most likely response. You then say "Well let's find out" and you kiss her.

The other one I learned from Adam Lyons last night.
Somewhere in the conversation, either when you get her a drink or when you're talking about something cool, give her a high five, and pull her in for a hug. Just a hug. This way she gets used to hugging you.

The next time you get to that point, hug her again, but this time kiss her on the cheek.

The third time you do it, kiss her on the cheek, and then pull away but keep your hands together. Immediately go in for a second kiss, aiming for her mouth. About halfway through, change direction for the second cheek instead. Pay attention to what she does here. If she automatically gave you the second cheek, she's not looking for a kiss. If you have to work around her to get to the cheek, she was expecting a kiss. If she does this, pull out again, and then go back in for a third kiss, this one finally on the mouth.

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-Ambition

I have shared this elsewhere, but let me drop it here again. It is a great way to test for a kiss without putting yourself out on a limb too far. Also if they aren't ready for a kiss, it will prime them for a second attempt.

First Prime the kiss:
You want to start talking slower. There should be some nice comfort built so that it is entirely natural for you to have little silent moments where you are just looking at each other or lost in your own thoughts. Now you need to set the kiss up. Finish saying something to her, or wait for her to stop talking and look her in the eyes for a solid second or two. Then slowly lower your eyes to her lips.

Now you are ready to start the kiss. If she doesn't turn away or start rapidly talking again, the kiss is on.

Here is how you do it:
Look her back in the eyes. Then slowly bring your head about three quarters of the way in for the kiss, while tilting your head. If she does any of the previous evasion techniques, just stop, pause for a second, give her a shrewd glance and say, "Nope, I just not feeling it. You're not ready." Now plaster a goofy smile on your face. Most of the time, she will immediately come in for the kiss. If she doesn't, back out after half a second, and immediately start an unrelated conversation. Even if she doesn't go for the kiss, she will be much more likely to respond positively the second time around.

You need to post a field report on the boot camp in the boot camp section:
PUA Boot Camp - Pick Up Artist Forum

Also guys - here is Adam's Boot Camp Schedule

Thanks for all of your positive responses. And thank you Bill for helping me out

It wasn't from a bootcamp. I got the Style routine from The Game and I got Adam Lyon's thing from the first disc of his Instant Attraction DVDs.

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-Ambition

ANY time my friend.

This tip is actually from Will Smith's Hitch.
You go in 90% of the way to kissing her, and she goes in 10%.
Why?
Women have made leaps and bounds in rights and what not, but they are still subservient to men (I'm pro women's rights). However, they do control when sex occurs, so you let them feel like they are choosing to kiss you, but really she could not do anything else. It has worked for me...

Has anybody done any research on the "kiss test" from David DeAngelo? I wonder how well it works. I want to try it out on a girl I have been hanging out with. She is in many of my classes and we hang out before and after class. I only see her during the week days. I bust her chops a lot and we have also had some deeper conversations. I started the kino as soon as I met her. I have been trying to read her to see how she would react to kissing. I think DeAngelo's kiss test is one of the best that I have heard so far. The whiskey test won't apply because she isn't 21 yet, so no bars. Does any body have any ideas? I think DeAngelo's "kiss test" is the one of the best I have heard so far. Has anyone tried it and has it worked? I would prefer knowing soon.

ok here is one method, you have to get a few IOI's at first, read her behaviour very carefully, see if she pays attention while talking to you, see if she touches her skin or rolls her hair around her finger, notice if she is comfortable to hold your hand and if these IOI's are there, you have a good chance, so there are different way of getting the kiss:

1. Ask her! seriously, it works, if she is not intrested, she'd say no, and you won't look like a tool and you won't get slapped (usually girls find it unusual if you ask tho), or she would reply "maybe" and you reply, "well , lets find out!" and lean forward for a kiss!
2. If you smoke and she does too, or at least she doesnt mind smoking, tell her you are going for a smoke and invite her along or see if she does come willingly, its easier to kiss a girl when her friends or yours are not watching!
3. In the middle of conversation, when you are talking and after she has "qualified" herself to you, just for 3 seconds, pause and just stare at her in the eye, if she smiles a lil, or she is nervous, or leans abit forward, go for a kiss!
4. Texting games, tell her "Ever tried texting people who are sitting beside you? its th funniest Sh1t" and you send her a message "how you doing? " and you tell her, oh probably you'd slap me if you read that! She will most probably say "why what did you say?" she would mostly laugh, then she replies, then you say "come here often?" and watch her reaction, and wait for her response, and you finally send a message "how about a kiss?" and before she opens it, you say "you'd deff slap me for this one!" and you laugh and you will get one of the answers from the hint #1. (Believe it or not, that's how I got my current girlfriend to kiss me, with only text gaming)

please remember
Do not use too much tongue, just a lil and keep it short, and keep your hands off her ass, boobs and etc! If you keep it short, she will overcome her fear, as she has experinced it once with you and it was a safe one, she is more comfortable to do it again!

Good luck my brother in crime

That method is from Mystery actually.

Watch the Whiskey Kiss: The Whiskey Kiss