I'm afraid to kiss

- Yes it is true. I'm afraid to initiate the kiss. Or just the whole kissing-thing. And I'm emberassed. Anyways, someone told me to post it here and maybe some of you good guys could give a AFC some advices?

//Roose

hey guys - he's seen the whiskey kiss video...

WHAT other advice do you guys have for someone who is 'afraid to kiss'

(note: he is a good looking guy, he can chat up girls and generate attraction, he is just afraid to seal the deal with a kiss).

Help him out, since I know some of you have had similar issues in the past and have found a way to get over it.

MAD reputation bonus from me for guys who help.

BP

It's like going on a roller coaster for the first time. Once you ride it, you won't be afraid of it anymore.

I think if you keep trying to kiss a girl and she pulls away, you should keep subtly trying and she'll eventually give in. Life is too farking boring to not try. You can tell her that.

Basically you're going to have to take a risk. Just bite your lip, take a breath and go for the kiss. Either she kisses you back or she doesn't, and from there you'll know if you did well or not.

But if you're looking for a routine, try one I got from Style. Look her in the eye and say "Do you want to kiss me?"
She'll say one of three things...
No - You respond "I didn't say you could. You just looked like you had something on your mind."
Yes - She'll rarely say this, but if she does, kiss her.
Maybe - This is the most likely response. You then say "Well let's find out" and you kiss her.

The other one I learned from Adam Lyons last night.
Somewhere in the conversation, either when you get her a drink or when you're talking about something cool, give her a high five, and pull her in for a hug. Just a hug. This way she gets used to hugging you.

The next time you get to that point, hug her again, but this time kiss her on the cheek.

The third time you do it, kiss her on the cheek, and then pull away but keep your hands together. Immediately go in for a second kiss, aiming for her mouth. About halfway through, change direction for the second cheek instead. Pay attention to what she does here. If she automatically gave you the second cheek, she's not looking for a kiss. If you have to work around her to get to the cheek, she was expecting a kiss. If she does this, pull out again, and then go back in for a third kiss, this one finally on the mouth.

I have shared this elsewhere, but let me drop it here again. It is a great way to test for a kiss without putting yourself out on a limb too far. Also if they aren't ready for a kiss, it will prime them for a second attempt.

First Prime the kiss:
You want to start talking slower. There should be some nice Comfort built so that it is entirely natural for you to have little silent moments where you are just looking at each other or lost in your own thoughts. Now you need to set the kiss up. Finish saying something to her, or wait for her to stop talking and look her in the eyes for a solid second or two. Then slowly lower your eyes to her lips.

Now you are ready to start the kiss. If she doesn't turn away or start rapidly talking again, the kiss is on.

Here is how you do it:
Look her back in the eyes. Then slowly bring your head about three quarters of the way in for the kiss, while tilting your head. If she does any of the previous evasion techniques, just stop, pause for a second, give her a shrewd glance and say, "Nope, I just not feeling it. You're not ready." Now plaster a goofy smile on your face. Most of the time, she will immediately come in for the kiss. If she doesn't, back out after half a second, and immediately start an unrelated conversation. Even if she doesn't go for the kiss, she will be much more likely to respond positively the second time around.

Thanks for all of your positive responses. And thank you Bill for helping me out

This tip is actually from Will Smith's Hitch.
You go in 90% of the way to kissing her, and she goes in 10%.
Why?
Women have made leaps and bounds in rights and what not, but they are still subservient to men (I'm pro women's rights). However, they do control when sex occurs, so you let them feel like they are choosing to kiss you, but really she could not do anything else. It has worked for me...