Small town PUAs? Need help

Ok I have been broken up about 6 weeks, dating one of the best looking girls in town. I live in a small town, 13000 people. There is one mall but it has only a zellers a grocery store a few smaller stores and a shoppers drug mart. I work right downtown in a place that gets a lot of traffic but my problem? I know mostly everybody already.
Night game? There are 3 bars in town. 1 is an actual club type bar 2 are like little dives with karaoke on the weekends.
my other problem is my ex... she is a hairstylist and one of the most popular in town. She pretty well talks to everybody. I don't think I'm that anxious talking to woman but the thought of failure being brought to her as gossip is pretty embarassing for me, though she is cool and has even suggested girls I should be seeing, this is still an issue for me.

So I see mostly the same girls every day, the bar scene is mostly the same too. I haven't put anything I've learned into practice (i have been studying for about 5 days) and I plan too very soon, so I'm looking for some advice on my situation. How do I open girls when its mostly the same girls all the time? Is this in my head or is this really going to be a challenge

Gotta be someone here with this kind of experience? maybe I should just move!

It is a blessing and curse.

A blessing, since all of your opening will be 'warm' openings (they know you). But you don't want to come in rocking a fedora and acting like Mystery or whatever. I would work on your inner game, become the guy you think women are attracted to and live that lifestyle (this is not acting like a normal PUA). Just like being a Pick Up Artist does NOT work on a college campus, it won't work in a small town where everyone knows you.

What does work is being fun, having an interesting life style, being friendly with everyone, organizing cool sh1t for everyone to do, contacting people and having them all meet at the bar for the game or the park for a game of softball or whatever.

Be the cool, fun leader of the guys and girls in your town and you will have more action than you will know what to do with.

THAT works on campus and in smaller towns.

Bill

Thanks Bill that is some great advice! Although I do rock a Fedora.

Seems I'm pretty limited in what I can do. I need a bigger circle of friends that's for sure. I'll try to get organized!

Anyone else living this with some more input?

You just can't 'sarge' a small town. It's the whole 'social circle' mentality. Like Bill said, you must be the leader of the men and women, be that guy they respond to, and work from there. I live in a smaller town than you. Here, you have to be a complete a$$hole, but in a fun way and not in a mean way. Have a barbecue. Football party. And as Bill suggested, meet at the bar for the game. Things like that really improve your social standing and increase your value not just with the town and the women, but with yourself. If you're having fun, then you do better with women, and everyone else.

Verbalcody,
I got the same if not worse problem. I'm a med student on an island in the middle of bum-F*$K-no where. The island has some very fine talent but all sum and total there are a sad 10,000 of us. I'm new to the rock so things are cooking but its hard to make fast moves here. Think of it this way if you move quick you'll hear about it just as fast since everyone knows everyone. So, pick a target and be around it. Build Kino and if you get enough IOIs pick your point and move. May take you a week to work it out but for the most part I've learned small town means slow gaming.

Well here's what I believe:

Working as a PUA in a college campus actually could work. I simply say this because, like in High School, you go in not knowing EVERYONE because they all come from different schools around the state, or possibly (depending on what college) different states.

You say you live in a town with about 13,000 (thirteen-thousand) people... That's not a small amount in general. Maybe for a town, yes, but for amount of actual people, no. The chances of you meeting someone new are still up there and if your ex is suggesting people, well dammit, go for it! She could be your best tool in the tool box. I've found some of the best wing men, or if you want to put it like this; wing women are actually female.

One of the best ways your ex can help you is that she's (as you claimed) one of the most popular hair stylists in town. So she talks to a LOT of girls, and I'm sure they're not just any normal girls either, but gorgeous girls. Go back to day one when you met your ex... Open up to these girls the same way you did her (well not 100% the same way, maybe back then you could have improved but what you did still worked) and keep things new and interesting.

You said you wear a fedora... Well, if you know a lot of people and that look is common for you, change it up a bit. Not permanently but wear a regular hat, or no hat at all for a night out. Dress a little differently, but still nice. Nothing over the top. Make it something that someone would notice who you talk to. Girls who you talk to and may have interest in will more than likely notice the change in your outfit (especially because most girls are big on changing outfits and hair styles, etc.) and either compliment you or ask why the change was. They basically open up to you and you just grab the ball and run from there.

Personally I say don't look at ANY situation as a "win/lose" situation. Look at them as win/wins and think about how to make it that way. If your girlfriend was cock blocking you it'd be different, you'd have to adapt to things she could say and use it as a win when another girl confronts you about it. The best thing about yourself is you know all of your faults, your weaknesses, and once you start questioning yourself about what went wrong, or how to improve yourself, you'll eventually be able to build a resistance to anything someone could possibly say about you.

For instance: People say I'm an a$shole. Well, the truth is, I can be and generally am. So when someone tells a girl that I am and they show lack of interest upon asking me I simply tell them "well I am *smile*" and continue with "but only when people deserve it and mainly joking. It all depends on your sense of humor and how you take things, but I'm also honest. I'm not going to lie and tell you that I think you look good if you really don't" and from there you can either come up with a small neg or a compliment. You've admitted to being an a$shole but either show your honesty that you just claimed by bringing up a possible flaw such as her hair looking better up or down, or giving her a small compliment like "you aren't looking too bad tonight" but don't make it a compliment like "damn you're fine girl" because then they'll think you're over exaggerating right away.

This isn't 100% but it's worked for me more than it's worked against me. I used my flaw that people generally could use against someone to finally benefit me. Making a small joke about yourself to show your sense of humor and taking in peoples bs they're trying to use against you really shows that you're a strong person too. So sit down, figure out all your flaws (or a good amount of them) and ask yourself what can you do better. What MIGHT people say about you since you're in such a small town where people will know other people and this chain boils down to: somewhere down the line all 13,000 people are in the connection. How can you use a negative about yourself as a positive? That's really what you need in a situation like this. At least, in my own personal opinion.

Well, I am in a similar situation. I have never lived in a big town. I thought the area I just moved to might be better, but it is in fact worse. At least the old town was a college town, so there were lots of hot women my age. The new town doesn't even have a full on University, so I am having a hard time finding women my age, who have any brains at all. Unfortunately, I have found that the facts are the facts and they ain't pretty. You can't go out and meet thirty women a night. You can't go to the local bar and sarge to your hearts content, because there might be only four or five women all night worth sargeing and if you blow it, your pretty much ruined that entire pool, because they are the regulars.

So what's the solution? The solution, isn't great, but it is the only way I have found to pick up women in these scenario. You have to find where the crowd your age hangs out. It is very social circle game oriented. Go to the bowling alley, or the library. Go to the local Starbucks and chat up the barista. Hell go to church and make friends with as many people as you can. Then try to get close enough that they invite you to hang out with them. Once you have a social circle going, use it to meet more people. Sooner or later you will know where the "happenings" are. You will be invited to hang out with the hot women in town, and you will have a chance with them. The nice thing is that I have found it to be much easier to pick up women, when you have the social impetus of knowing their friends.

Basically, living in a small town sucks, for the aspiring PUA. I am realizing how much work it takes since I am having to do it all over again, here. However, you can have moderate success if you use my method. Remember, your initial goal is not to immediately meet hot women, but to becomes friends or acquaintances with everyone around your age thus maximizing your social capital and the chances of meeting hot women.